31 weeks pregnant and stressed out

Question

So i am 31 weeks pregnant and my guy just left me because he found out that at work i do receptionist work and said that i dont make enough money.... Hes a fireman for LA City and i guess he enjoys putting people down... He came to my home and took back the stroller, bouncer, bathtub, and swing he purchased for our daughter and told me to buy my own...I am so stressed, depressed and i dont know what to do. Anyone ever have a situation like this?

Answer 1

My fiance abandoned me when I was 14 weeks along.  He left with a lame apology and said he would "send money when he can".  That turned out to be.....0.00$.  Haven't heard from him since.

So I am now 35 weeks along.  I work full time to maintain insurance and pay the bills, even though I have had a high risk, difficult pregnancy.  I have had so much depression and stress that I have been suicidal.  I have had no support and no one to talk to.  Many other pregnant women don't understand this.....they have partners or someone close who can support them.  

It's hard, but you can get through it.  It's not easy.  

Answer 2

I'm lost here.

You are pregnant with his child, but he didn't know where you worked?

But, he had access to your house and could just walk in and take things back?

Put his name on the birth certificate (If you are positive he is the father) and file for child support. (IMMEDIATELY after your baby is born.)

Then, DON'T take the guy back!  He will probably come to you with some story, to keep from having to pay child support.  You will be in a state of hormones after your baby is born, and will want things to work out, so your baby will have a father.  But, look at what he is really like.  

Coming in and taking his own daughter's stroller, etc.!  That is beyond my comprehension on terrible!

So, don't lie to yourself later about this guy.

Also, if you need help, consider a place that helps pregnant women (In our area it;s Lifeline Pregnancy) and they can help with things you might need.

Also, there is WIC for formula or food for you after the birth.

If you belong to a church, they have benevolent funds for things like this.

If you know enough people, perhaps you will have a baby shower and can receive some of the things you need.

If you have family?  You might consider moving to where they live, so your baby will have grandparents/aunts, etc. if possible.

As for being in a similar situation.  

My child's father wanted me to have an abortion.

Then, after she was born, he wanted paternity tests, to drag out the time he would have to pay child support.   When my little baby was crying, and I was crying,  because the nurse kept having to stick her to find a vein, all for NO reason whatsoever (he knew he was the father) I lost any remaining love I had for him.

We tried over the years to "do the right thing" and see him and let him "be a father".

It's almost 14 years later.  She is tired of dealing with him, his lies, his back and forth behavior, and if I had it to do over again, I would have been honest with myself and realized that some people are incapable of being parents.  

So, try not to focus on him and focus on yourself and your baby.

Realize that he is really the one with the problem here, and start thinking about what you need to do for you and your child.

For her sake, get excited and get busy on doing something, so you will feel like you have some control over what is going on in your life.

Also, if you don't attend a church, consider joining one, so you will raise your daughter to love the Lord, and also give yourself a chance to meet someone who is hopefully nice and caring.

God bless!

EDITED:

I STILL believe he should pay child support.  It is his DUTY as a father.  I can see where you are coming from on not wanting him to be able to say anything to you later, but your child deserves it, and also, down the road, you don't know what might come about.  You may end up needing to rely on that money for awhile.  

Also, have you noticed the price of things children need anymore?  

It just makes good sense to provide the best you can for your daughter, and her father SHOULD be providing, also.

This isn't about what YOU did.

You didn't just magically become pregnant, either.

HE needs to be responsible.

I would NOT let him off the hook on this.  I really wouldn't.

Answer 3

take him to court for child support and that suck i'm so sorry.

Answer 4

Wow, what a jerk he is! I know it may seem hard right now, but plenty of women end up being single moms, and they do great. If your baby's father is willing to leave you over something like that (and to take back stuff he bought for the baby), he's not good enough for you anyway. List him on the birth certificate as the father, then immediately go after him for child support when your daughter is born. Don't take him back. He'll just disappoint you again. Then he'll disappoint your daughter. She doesn't need someone like that in her life anyway. If you need financial support, there are plenty of places that will help. There's WIC for formula and food, and lots of organizations that will provide you with clothing and other supplies you'll need. Hang in there, it may not seem it now, but it's probably for the best that he left when he did.

Answer 5

That's terrible. Take him to court. You'll be fine. There are lots of single mothers out there.