34 weeks pregnant and i want a divorce but??

Question

WOW! I'm in a complex situation i married(at 19) a man whom i barely knew even if we dated for like 2 years i guess i gave him the benefit of the doubt since we went to church together. Anyways now its 2 years later and we don't get along at all plus i have a little girl on the way we don't even sleep in the same bed which is fine cuz I'm disgusted by him right now! my thing is we just bought a place together and i don't have any type of degree and he does and hes a man so he can start all over way better than i can at this point i have made enough mistakes and i have come to realize that in order for me to leave it would be best if i went and got some type of certification so that i could take care of myself and my little girl without having him around. my question is if he gives me a divorce will the courts allow me that time so i can go to school so that i can support myself in the future???? I'm not stressed out right now because i don't love him so it doesn't hurt as bad the only thing that's messed up is the fact that I'm pregnant.

Please help!

Really need some advice!

Answer 1

you are in titled to some spouse support.You can get a divorce and maybe move back home.I'm sure you have family members who are willing to help you.

Answer 2

dont blame it on the child and my mom had the same problem(im 14 now) but she was an immigrant and he controled and beat her! what you need to do is find out what your best at! and try to go for it! but maybe you guys should sit down and have a mature talk about how you guys realize yal arent in love no more but you wanna keep him in her life and ask if he could help you with her like help pay with things and help take care of her during the time that you would go to school. dont start a war with him because it becomes somethign bad for the kid! i took the right road when me n my mom got out of the situation(that was 4 years ago so i dealt with it til i was 10) BUT you never know your child could take the wrong road and get reall stresed and start doing drugs so just try to stay friends with him  so she can see him etc. hope i helped

Answer 3

Hey, unless he is abusing or something give it another chance after the baby is born.Most people completly change their outlook after a baby is born,so hold out until then and see what happens.

Answer 4

Sounds like you have problem...

Answer 5

In addition to child support, seek spousal support from your husband.

Answer 6

Go to counselling and try to make it work.  Go for a "clean slate".  Your child deserves that.  Counselling should be available through your church.

Answer 7

Being married to the guy and wanting to leave with custody involved and other issues, you really need to talk to an attorney. He can give you the information you need. Also you can go to the pastor of your church. That is what he is there for. He may be able to give you some of the answers you need. Also at a time like this, family can also help. Wish you luck.  

Answer 8

I don't know where you live but there should be public assistance programs that can assist you where you need it ,,,, The father is going to have to help with this too whether he wants to or not ,,,, Just keep a cool head and don't panic ,,,, That will get you no where ,,,, All you have to do is talk to some one in public assistance and find out what to do and how you apply ,,,, You should also be able to get assistance with schooling too ,,,,You are going to need legal assistance too and allot of lawyers offer first visit free appointments ,,,, Just make a plan for yourself and set some goals and stay focused on what you want to do and where you want to go with your life ,,,,  

You've gotten a couple nasty replies to your post ,,,, You are just asking for help and ideas not criticism c**p or abuse so pay them no mind ,,,, They aren't perfect either ,,,, Wish you all the luck in the world with this chicky ,,,, I sincerely hope you can arrive at a workable solution to this situation ,,,, Just use your head and maintain patience and focus ,,,, This time will pass and you'll get through it ,,,,        Yoda said this ,,,,     //

Answer 9

Honey, unless he has cheated on you or has been abusive either physically or mentally, there is a possibility it is your hormones that are talking. When I was pregnant, I couldn't stand my husband, everything he did broke my nerves. I told this to a couple of my friends who said the same thing. It happens, it's hormones plus you are probably really uncomfortable right now with swollen feet and you are maybe nervous about giving birth.

Also it's never too late to start a degree after having the baby, put her name on a waiting list for a daycare and apply to a junior college and take it part-time.

Good luck:)

Answer 10

Sorry but this is so like, pathetic. YOU married a stupid man which in 2 years you got disgusted by!!!!

Well ok, ok it's fine if you just married him, you can get divorced. But WTF did you do do s*x with him without a condom!!!! even if you intended to have a child with him you should have THOUGHT first.

But wtf did he do that you hate him so much now???

What do your parents think about it????LOL

You can give the child to your parents for them to look after him while you are in university or whatever.

WTF??? it works out that you are much younger than you husband, and that he already finished university??? he's a ******* Pervert.

Sorry

AND again sorry

im also sorry for you

THERE'S NO BETTER PLACE THEN AT YOUR FAMILY AT SUCH A TIME.