'Talk' with my future wife? Advise from woman needed?

Question

I was reading the book: Why men dont listen and women cant read maps.

I am a man and will be marrying a woman in distant future. After reading the book,i have learned one thing regarding how to develop relationship with my wife.

1) I have learned that me and wife should talk/communicate a lot everyday to develop bonding/relationship.

2) I have learned that i should listen to my wife everyday so that she feels good without offering her solutions to her problems.

The book says woman just want to speak with someone close without that person offering solutions.

3) I have learned that i should not force my wife for s*x and before starting s*x, i should talk sweetly to her and engage in lot of foreplay.

4) I have learned that i should be a good father to her (and my) kids.

5) I have learned that i should give her flowers, chocolate and wine frequently.

6) i have learned that i should be totally committed to her.

7) I have learned during her periods, she is tired and i should step in and make food, clean house and take care of kids. Basically help her a lot during her periods.

8) I have learned i should have good humour sense to make my wife laugh.

9) I have learned to appreciate her by giving her details. Example: If she asks me how she looks in a new dress, i should say:

Wow..Thats great. You are looking amazing. Turn back...amazing..this colour suits you. Your hair style is matching your dress..you look wonderful..simply amazing.

Have i learned the right things from the book? I want great relationship with my future wife.

Woman advise needed.

Answer 1

Yeah, I would say you have.  The trick is doing it all :)  For example, it doesn't mention HOW to be a good father, etc.  But if you love her, and cherish her, you will do the right things.  Just be certain she's a good person, who will love and cherish you back :)

Good luck!

Answer 2

I think it is great that you have put this extra motivation to make things work but do it not only for her but for you too. Some of those things may not completely be "you" if you know what I mean. Just be an improved version of yourself because you can only be someone else for so long.

Like #9 sounds a bit much unless that is really you. I think there are some women who always want you to tell them "yes that looks great" even when it doesn't but most of us are asking because we really want an answer, not a compliment. I can ask my husband if something looks okay and he will tell me if it is too bright or just right and then compliment me. If he tells me something doesn't look right I don't get offended because I needed the answer, not the boost in self esteem. If you tell your wife that looks great with her eyes and her hair all the time she will catch on to that as being repetitive and not be sure of anything she wears.

Sorry for that long story. As you have probably learned with experience, women talk a lot too. Just be you and improve what you need to. But don't let her walk all over you. You need respect from her. You trying to understand her more and make her happy shows you are a nice guy. Not everything will be your fault but when it is, apologize and don't repeat.

The most romantic thing a man can do for a woman is admire her. Everything comes natural after that. No one said monthly flowers guarantees her heart. Your respect does. Good luck and congratulations. (And #2, 4, 6, 8 is correct).

Answer 3

Wow, now that you have learned all the right things,the next step will be to remember all that you have learned and then practice them you will have a wonderful life filled with joy,and a very happy and content partner.Good luck.

Answer 4

We can read maps we just don't want too. My best advice would be just to roll with it.

Answer 5

please understand that reading the book is great and saying the things above all sound good but don't quote from the book--let all your words come from the heart--yes communication is key in a relationship and if you go into it with an open mind you will do great.  you both will grow during the relationship as well--the key is to do this together and adjust together to any differences you have--don't give up during the hard times either during the relationship--Relationship goes both ways--she needs to take care of you and vice versa--Best of luck~~

Answer 6

  You are marring a VERY lucky woman.  Help spread your knowledge.  The women of the world will appreciate it.  

    

Answer 7

Men have no connection made from ears to heart and Women have extra wire connecting the brains to heart.

That's why.. there are some mechanical problems when human bodies were designed..