4 and still not dry through the night?!?

Question

hi my little girl is 4 and still not dry in the night, no matter how many times i wake her up or cut her drink back she still wets the bed! help! any ideas?

Answer 1

don't worry, she's only a baby yet.

I was about 8 before I stopped wetting the bed.

Answer 2

Like many others have said, your daughter is still quite young and you should take it as normal. Keep doing what you are doing but be cool about it& don't stress when she wets herself. I'm going thru the same process with my 5&4 year olds and we just make fun of whoever makes a lake in their bed lightly; it's no big deal coz they are doing really well in my opinion. SOme days they are soaked& I have to change everything in the night and many days they are completely dry or even take themselves to the toilet in the night. So take it easy and she'll stop when she is ready. Good luck.

Answer 3

wetting the bed is very common in kids especially girls.  you can take her to the doctor but everyone that i know who had this problem eventually outgrew it.  speaking from experience i was in the 4th grade when i stopped.  i have many friends who stopped before that and some as late as high school.  if she isn't getting alot of infections i wouldn't think much of it.  you can read about it on webmd though.  good luck to you and your daughter!

Answer 4

she might be scared.  or she just cant hold it some how and has to let it out.  all u can do is do what u been doing.  she has to grow out of it.  if u think its a real prob take her to the doctor she might have a bladder prob.

Answer 5

Put her in 'goodnites' disposable underwear and forget about it.  She can't help it - a pretty good percentage of kids wet the bed.  Give her another year or so but if the time comes when she is bothered by it or if she is just getting too big, then try a bed wetting alarm.  http://www.bedwettingstore.com/Bedwettin...

My oldest used this when she was 7 and it took about 3 weeks but she is dry now and has been for over a year.  My 4 year old looks like she is headed down the same path but 4 is pretty young to be worried about it.

Answer 6

Hi,

I have two children the younger one  learn at the age of two potty training and he stop to do it in the night by the time he was three but my older daughter was very different, she didn't stop during the day by the time was 3 an a half and even now at 10 years old when I don't reminder her to go to the toilet before going to bed or her routine is being broken by doing something different( like going to bed earlier or later than usual, or having problems, having stressful moments, moving house, losing friends, etc...) she start having few accidents, she also her liver have less capacity to hold liquid than my other child and she needs to go to the toilet more often or it may be medical. But I think still too young to know about the medical.

Answer 7

Don't worry about it its not unusual. I wouldn't make anything of it and before you realise it she will be going through completely dry.

Answer 8

Hi mines exactly the same she has never been dry since the day she was born.

She went 4 in june and was only properly toilet trained in July last year. I think both of them just have week bladders. I use pyjama pants there a bit like nappies for big boys and girls as she would be waking at least 3 times during the night if i didn't use them. As i work full time i wouldn't have the paitence to change her bed so many times during the night. My sister wet the bed until she was 7 years old and as i shared a bedroom with her it was very annoying.

I have been told that getting them to drink through really curly straws is supposed to help tighten the bladder walls. Another thing is that she has never had told hold her wee as we have 3 toilets at home and there is always one free so when she has needed to go she has just gone but know when i'm out i'll ask to hold herself a bit longer ( normally 10 mins after she has said she needs to go) to try and strengthen her bladder muscle.

I give my daughter her last drink at 5.30 pm and she goes before bedtime at 7.30 i also lift her at 11pm before i go to bed and yet at 7am her nappie is soaking so i really sympathize with you and would just put this down to weak bladders nothing to worrie about but very annoying. I have even tried a reward chart for dry nights but she got too upset and just kept telling me she couldn't help it so i stopped that as it did seem a little cruel.

Sorry not many ideas but try the staws and getting her to hold herself a bit longer and see how you go. Good luck x*x

Answer 9

My son is 11 and if I don't remind him to go to the bathroom before going to bed, or if he gets to cold at night, he'll have an accident, I guess his sleep if very deep. He's been checked by his doctor and he's fine.

Even though I do have a friend that her daughter will have accidents almost everyday and night, she'll have to go to school and take her a change of clothes, but the mother has the same problem, she's in her early 40s and still has accidents.

But that doesn't seam to be the problem with your girl.

I think she'll grow out of it. The Dr. said it is hereditary and in my sons case I found out that my husband grew out of it when he was about 12 or 13.

If your girl has accidents every night maybe she could wear a pull-up or easy-ups at night.

Oh and the Dr. said never to make them feel bad about it because it's not their fault, they do it unconsciously.

Answer 10

That's normal - some children aren't dry at night until they're 5 or even 6.  My kids were, but my friend's little girl was 6 when she could do without pullups at night and there was nothing wrong with her, no psychological problems or anything.

Try again in 6 months and don't worry about it - the stress might actually make things worse.

Answer 11

Some ppl are just like that, perhaps a nervous thing . . i was like that until i was 13!!

Make sure shes not frightened or worried about something, that helped me. =] idk

Answer 12

She may be having night terrors that are making her wet. It's also been proven that if a child is being "touched" in certaint ways that they will wet the bed. Not saying that that is what's happening but if she is ever watched my daycare or anything you might look for other signs. If this is all that is going on though I would worry about that. Maybe just start having a rule about no drinks 2 hours before bed period.

Answer 13

she might have bladder problems. or ask her what she is dreaming about. if she dreams about toilets (which might happen in a four year olds mind) then she will most likely wet the bed. maybe she is too tired to get up when she knows she needs to go or maybe it is an attention thing. the way to find out which is to ask her.

Answer 14

My son just turned 3 last week and has been potty trained during the day since shortly after he turned two but is still in diapers at bedtime and I thought he should be out of them by now but the pediatrician said it is common for some kids to wet the bed up to 5 years old. Sorry no advice from me but wanted you to know it isn't unusual.

Answer 15

That happens, don't worry she will outgrow it.  It may take time.  Remember her bladder is very small and she can get so into her sleep she doesn't get up or she dreams she is in the bathroom so she uses it then wakesup realizing she is wet.  It happens to a lot of kids most parents just aren't honest and open about it.  My oldest son is 6 in 5 days and still has occasional nights where no matter what I do he has an accident, the Dr said at that age it can happen.  If you really worried you can mention it to the Dr and they can check to see if she has an infections or any bladder problems (my moms bladder never worked right as a kid).