4 weeks till my wedding and need help!!!?

Question

My wedding is in 4 WEEKS! and my mom likes the idea of rectangle tables for the outside reception with plastic table cloths. My future mother in law is in charge of getting the tables for the reception and likes the round (so its not so cafeteria-ish) with white linens that was given to use for free. This is causing conflict with my mom. I've afraid to voice my opinion so there isn't anymore conflict. I like the idea of round tables with the linens for the guests and 3 rectangle tables placed in a U for the bridal party, but my mom said the linens are not good for outside receptions. Is something really wrong with that??

Answer 1

Since plastic table cloths are cheap (compared to everything else you're buying for your wedding) buy them (and make sure you tell your mother this) "in case anything happens and we need to use them." Otherwise, do exactly what you'd like with the 3 rectangle tables and the round tables. It sounds like a good compromise for both mothers.

Enjoy your special day!  

Answer 2

wat do u want ,its not up tp anyone else but u

Answer 3

what did she say was wrong with it? If anything i would think that the weight of the linen  vs plastic would be better and also look nicer.  Why does she want rectangle ? did she give reasons? how about asking her matter of factly... I think it depends on how many people your trying to seat and how much room you have  more then anything. Then of course what look your trying to achieve.

Answer 4

Its your wedding and you should get what you want.

I've been doing a lot off things different than what my family wanted.

I figured after our wedding i don't want to regret not having or doing

something like i wanted for my wedding.

Plus they won't remember your wedding but you sure will.

I'd say do things the way you want them.

Also if the wedding is outside plastic table cloths fly away easier than actual cloth table cloths.

Answer 5

CONGRATS ... (my wedding is in 4 weeks too!!)

i thinkt he best solution would be... chekc out the amoutn of space you have for the tables... now how many can each table hold... do they hold the same amount?

to be honest , if you have all the space you need plus extra, i would honestly go with the round tables.. at my engagement party (outdoor) we used rectangle because we had limited space and it was the best way to fit everyone... but i kinda thinkthe round woul dlook a bit classier.. i do however like your idea for a u shaped for the bridal party.

in the end, its YOUR wedding. you can tell your mom that you will make the decision to get the look you are going for. and you can tell your mother in law that you decided that (..whatever you decide..) would be best for your day . they should respect that and your mother in law should want to make you happy even though she is paying for it. hopfully.

good luck

Answer 6

If your mothier in-law is incharge then let her do what she wants and tell your mom that you are sorry but you left it up to her. There is nothing wrong with white linens for an outside wedding.  I was actually just at one this weekend and it looked very pretty.  Especially when the wind blew.  

Answer 7

Who is paying?

If mom is footing the bill

she should have final say.

If you are paying go with the

linens!

Answer 8

Not unless it rains! But you should really voice your opinion, it's your wedding, it's your decision. Not to mention, if you placed your mother-in-law in charge of tables, then you should stick by the appointment. Your idea seems to be a happy medium, so go with that, and don't let anyone make you feel like you can't have what you want on your wedding day!

Answer 9

First of all, this is YOUR day, if you want round tables, say so. I think it is a great idea. I had round tables at my wedding with linens. Round tables make it easier for your guests to have conversations with EVERYONE at the table. If rectangle tables are used, only those closest to you can be involved in conversations during dinner, etc. Don't be afraid to voice your opinion.........I think that both mothers are being unfair to make you feel like you can't have what YOU want. If you mother-in-law is in charge, talk to her and tell her what you want.......linens are absolutely fine for outdoor weddings. Paper napkins, table clothes, etc. will be easily blown off the tables, etc. Linens will tend to stay in place. I wish you all the luck!