4 year old cussing and beating people up at preschool?

Question

is there likely abuse going on here?

Answer 1

firstly im guessing that this isnt your child and you are his teacher??

i would not jump to the conclusion that this child is being abused, but keep that in mind if any other signs start to show.

it may be just that the child is simply bored of what is going on. quiet often young children who are bright but need encouragement otherwise they do tend to become aggresive.

i would be recording all of this so when you discuss it with the parents you have evidence(just because some parents tend to disagree with things like this.)

i work in childcare and recently had a 4 year old start there like that. In the end we discovered that keeping him busy with activties,stories, games etc is all he needed and it was only when he was getting bored that he became aggresive...

hope this helps.

goodluck =]

Answer 2

You think??

Answer 3

He probally has older siblings that he is learning from. He may just need a little attention. Try redirecting him.

Answer 4

Are you this child's teacher?  I would recommend a conference with the parents which you have probably done. We play this game called Red square, green square.  I would focus on the "keeping your hands to yourself" behavior first.  Still when he cusses tell him "we don't use those words at preschool" - Okay - so explain the game to him and have his parents explain the game to him at home.  If he keeps his hands to himself one day, he gets a green square - if he punches or hits, he gets a red square.  Three green squares, he gets a reward from mom and Dad.  the reward is up to mom since she's the one buying it. This is pretty severe behavior so something he really wants would be good for at first.  Red squares are ignored, green squares are praised.

This child could need a psychological evaluation  - could be ADHD - you just don't know at this age.  They are so young and if they are angry, this seems to the only outlet they understand - punch someone.  good luck with this one - I have had this behavior in preschool as well and it was very tough - on the teachers and everyone else in the class.  

On the other hand, if this is YOUR child, get a psychological evaluation on your own and see what they recommend.  They have school for behavior children who are trained to work with very angry children and unsocial behaviors.

Answer 5

Most likely it is but usually it is what children see on television and around family that provoke them to be so violent. Parents dont really seem to care what their children see or hear today.

Answer 6

There's a lot of things that could be affecting the reason the child is doing this. Children that age follow the monkey see monkey do rule. It may be something they are seeing within the family or it may be something they see on TV or video games. It may be that they child just needs a different sort of attention/affection that they are not receiving at home. Either way, talk to the parent and see if it's something that happens at home. If it is ask how the parents deal with it. It might make it easier for the child if they are continually disciplined the same way.

Answer 7

THE BEST TREATMENT FOR KIDS LIKE THIS.

GIVE THEM WHAT THEY WANT.  BUY THEM EVERYTHING THEY WANT.

FORGET DISCIPLINE.  DON'T EVEN CONSIDER SPANKING...

Answer 8

I don't answer questions where inadequate details are given, eg. whose child is it? What is your relationship to the child, if any?

Answer 9

No it's not abuse it just very bad parenting.