4 year old driving me nuts!

Question

my son will be 5 9/3 hes making me crazy! i have an older daughter and almost 1y/o twin boys, but since hes been like 2 he NEVER listens i have to watch him, 24-7, i sleep like 2-3hrs a night cause he gets up and will sneek out to ride his bike or to play.. i sleep on the couch blocking the front door now hes going out windows so I fixed that problem to.

Im loosing it! we tried ADD meds they make him worse! iv tried church, sports, play groups but as usual he dont listen their either and im told to not bring him anymore! Im not doing anything right to make him better What can I do??? Iv whipped his butt to puting him in a corner, I have to sit on him to get him to sit out for any amount of time, Iv done everything and nothing works!

The doc's laugh and say boys will be boys yeah but he has to stop he cant go to school acting like this! anything you can tell me to try Ill try! thanks ahead of time!

since I had the twins its harder I feel like I cant do it anymore, Iv looked up boy homes but I know I couldnt ever do that but Im really really loosing my mind with him.

Answer 1

Where is dad? Sounds like you are doing this by yourself and that is the big problem. Do you have a friend (male) that he looks up to? If so get his help. My son is ornery too but will do whatever my husband tells him to. You have a real safety issue on your hands with him going outside in the middle of the night. You need to find a child behaviorist because that will be your only help it seems. Good luck!!

Answer 2

First off - It WILL be ok, I know being in the middle of it probably doesn't feel like it - but you and your son will make it through this!

Have you taken him to a child counselor (therapist); they may be able to help him and hopefully they can shine some light on the situation for you.  I would think they would have suggestions on how to handle the behaviors he is exhibiting, while also being able to talk with him and maybe see where some of these actions are coming from.

Four year olds are always going to test the waters and see what they can get away with, but at this age they know the difference between right and wrong and should be learning how to make "good choices".

Besides that boys will be boys - have you gotten any constructive feedback form your Family Doctor?  Have they looked into him needing meds outside of ADD?  Could there be an underlying problem, that results in these behaviors, like the getting up at wee hours.

I hope you find help, please reach out!!  As a mother we tend to take too much on (you already have enough) and we personalize the situation and want to blame and doubt ourselves.  This will do you, your son and other children no good!!

You are in my prayers!

Answer 3

idk... i think four year olds are annoying.