4 year old gir touching self..Normal or start looking more into it?

Question

My friend just called me and said this to me about her daughter. Im the only friend she has with daughters. So she called me to ask me if my daughters ever touch their selves when they were younger. I told her i dont think so, i never seen anything like that with them.

I know some doctors say its normal, but i just want to know someone elses opinion?

Answer 1

if you trll her no, like most kids she will do it just because you told her no!  Most kids are just suprised at what they have and are exploring just keep and eye on her~

Answer 2

It is normal, little girls and boys both do self discovery even before they are born.  Unless it is just a habit she started out of nowhere after being left alone with someone I wouldn't read any more into it than it is just normal self exploration.

Answer 3

I think its normal but at the same time a little surprised by how young the girl is. Usually girls touch themselves throughout puberty or when they're pre-teens.

But I don't think its anything to worry much about. Its probably mostly out of curiousity, and children are always curious about something :)

Answer 4

just tell your friedn to teach the girl about privacy

Answer 5

Self exploration is very normal.  Some children do it more often than others. My daughter does the same thing, especially when she is in the bathtub.  She is two.  Don't make a big deal out of it.  The only time I would be concerned is if my child said something along the lines that someone else has touched her there.

Answer 6

My daughter explores around there once in awhile.  She's not masturbating at all, just mostly grabbing at her labias and pulling them open.  I've tried telling her to do that only in private, but I don't know how well she understands that.  I've also started teaching her the proper words for her genitals and that Mommy and Daddy can clean her down there, and a doctor can look when Mommy is around, but that nobody else can touch her down there.  If anyone does, she needs to tell Mommy or Daddy.  I know she might be too early, but I figure if I start saying it now, she'll just think of it as second nature when she's old enough to understand.

So, at four, if she's all out masturbating, I'd have a talk with her about her private areas.  if she's just exploring, I'd just tell her that she should do that in the bath tub.  I wouldn't want to scare her or make her feel ashamed, but let her know that it's not appropriate in public.

Answer 7

I have a four year old boy who touches himself. It is completly normal. Kids are just exploring and that is how they learn. I explained to my son that it is not nice to touch himself when people are around and that if he wants to do that it is okay he just needs to do it in his own room.

Answer 8

Some kids do this while others seem to know its something done in private. I had boys but my mother said I had a bad habit of this when I was around 3 or 4. Its a natural curiosity for them and there will be other things to happen as time goes by, its just part of human nature. The more she gets upset over it the worse it will get so tell her to handle it calmly but firmly as to whats permitted that its not something to be done in public

Answer 9

From my OWN experience. I was 3/4 when I was first molested. I touched myself alot after that (I know weird) But my grandma caught me when I was four and just told me I was a "sinner"..at the time I had no idea what it was. I didn't understand the "sexual" c**p either. I think she should look more into it. My grandma just thought it was normal too..If you need anymore info EMail/IM me. I would DEFINATELY look into this...she may be getting molested or worse :(

Answer 10

I think every little girl does it, it is annoying but normal.