5'9 13 yr. old girl needs help please.

Question

obviously i'm tall for my age. but the worst part is, i'm not even very skinny. i'm 140 lbs. i have a "small" frame, but still. my grandpa always says, you have 5 feet of legs. and people tell me i'll appreciate it when i'm, older 'cause i get to eat more. but if i'm not careful i'll pack on the pounds so quickly. do guys like tall girls? am i a freak 'cause i'm not skinny?

Answer 1

six foot tall girl here... And I am bigger, too. Guys are intimidated by tall girls, but if you just let them know you are interested they tend to not be so shy anymore.

And NO! YOURE NOT A FREAK! You're probably a total doll without even realizing it! Don't sweat it.

"Tall" fun starts about age 18. Until then, ignore people who make fun of you and know you're hot.

Answer 2

umm

i think you have to be at least 5'9" to be a model, so.. look at it that way! it probably seems like you are tall now because most of the boys in your class probably haven't hit puberty yet and haven't had a growth spurt. in a couple of years, everyone else will catch up to you (or at least grow a lot taller than they are now)

Answer 3

I will be 57 yrs old next week, and being worried about yourself---whether physical or emotional----is very common.  EVERY person feels that worrry about themselves.  There is not a single person who does not worry about something about themselves, sometimes letting the worry turn to fear about themselves, some physical trait or characteristic about themselves.

One of the best weapons in dealing with this is to know that others are also afraid or worried about their appearance or how they act.  Once you can understand that everyone else has the same fears or worries, it takes the sting out of your own worries, because then you aren't alone in your worries.

But regardless of your physical size or shape, the greatest power you can have and maintain all your life is CONFIDENCE in yourself.  If you are confident in yourself, truly confident in yourself and what you do, then you can't be bothered by your own worries or fears, or by what others think or say about you.

Several years ago, there were a pair of twin brothers who were amazingly profitable and successful real estate men who made lots of money.  And they were midgets.  You'd think that people would laugh at them, make fun of them, but their confidence in themselves outweighed any discomfort or scorn they might have received. Plus, having such strong confidence showed others how serious they were in their work and in their decisions so that it gave them greater respect by others and by business.

Stephen Hawkins is a modern day "Albert Einstein" about astronomy, physics, the design and concept of the whole universe.  And he is a paraplegic.  He cannot talk, he cannot walk.  He has to have continual assistance in his life.  He has to use a computer to speak with.  Yet, he was able to become nearly the greatest scientist in the world, even with his physical problems.  Why should anyone take a cripple who can't even talk seriously?  Because of his knowledge and confidence.

It's not easy to do, to try to build up confidence in yourself, especially when you are an early teenager.  This is the most embarressing time of your life, because you focus so strongly upon yourself and your place in your social area.  You are trying to make friendships, not fake ones, but real ones, and you are opening yourself up to others, which many times will backfire when they turn on you and make fun of you.

I was made fun of my whole childhood, merely because I was a quiet kid, not very vocal, but energetic at times.  The shape of my head gave me many taunts of "egghead" and "football head".  It burned inside me badly how they hurt me by namecalling. I never did anything to them, why hurt me so?

But eventually, I found that namecalling is done by kids who are worried about themselves, scared that they won't fit it, so they make fun of someone because "everyone else" does it, so then it seems like they fit in.  But it's not what gives you confidence.

The way to build confidence in yourself is to not believe in those kids or people who make fun of you.  They do it because they are insecure and the only way to feel better is to put people down.  So if they are insecure, then their namecalling is false, not true.  That means that your worries about what they say about you is meaningless, because their words are false.

You also have to find ways to learn to judge for youself, and to gain confidence in your own judgment and decisions.  Even when most of the world around you says to do the opposite, if you truly believe in what you do, then your confidence is your strength in life and in your decisions.  It's an incredible rush to know that what you think and belive in are right.....right for you...no matter what others say of or about you.

Just look at the words being thrown at Obama in politics today.  I do not believe in his politics, but I can see how others are trying to take him down by namecalling and trying to paint a dark picture about him.

But he is continuing in his presidential bid, because he believes in what he is doing, in what he wants to do for this country.  He believes in himself, and he is not stopping just because there's others who call him names or say wrongful things about him.

So you have got to find some things about yourself that you know are good, that you can see that you made good decisions about.  Once you have a good foundation of knowledge about yourself, then you can continue to build upon that.  Find things that you know you made good decisions about, and keep building about that.  Oh, you'll make mistakes.  You'll make tons of mistake in school alone.  But mistakes are "to use and then lose", learn how you made the mistake, then try not to do it again.  And some mistakes will be so embarressing, you'll want the world to swallow you up.  But when you can return from such embarressment and show up the world that you won't let it keep you down, that's when confidence is your strength.  That's when you'll be in control of yourself, and you'll be in charge of your own destiny.

Admittedly, there are times when physical taunts and name calling can be true.  You might have a funny long nose.  You might have scraggly red hair.  You might be uncoordinated and stumble a lot.  But that's part of learning about yourself, learning what is real and not, and using it for your own purpose.  If you do have a long nose, okay.  It's true.  But worrying about it won't change it.  But knowing that it's true, and not letting it bother you will make you a better and stronger person.

I do not envy your life right now, since it's a terribly delicate time in any kid's life.  Teenage years are so difficult, and yet can be so fun.  Just remember, that whatever you look like, however many legs or arms you have, in all seriousness, as long as you are confdent about yourself and what you believe in, you will control your world.

Answer 4

NO UR NOT A FREAK!!

every tall person ways more cause they have alot of thick bones

im 138 pounds

and im freakishly skiny and tall

and guys like me

Answer 5

You may be tall for your age, but you are in no way a freak! I know how you feel- I was very tall when i was 13 also- about 5'7''. But now I love my height, because I think tall girls are beautiful (just look at all the models out there- they all have to be at least 5'7''!). Sometimes I even wish I was taller (I am 5'8'' now).

And 140 lbs is NOT overweight in the least bit! It sounds like the right weight for your height (you must always consider the height/weight ratio). Sure, it may not be "skinny" but it is healthy, and that is the best thing.

Overall, just don't be upset about your height or weight- one day you will really appreciate it.

Answer 6

hey your exactly like me ! i am about 5''9 and i am about that same weight don;t stress it just love yourself ! and be who you are not who you want to be ! your not a freak guys like tall girl and short they could care less !

Answer 7

There will always be some guys who are intimidated by your height, especially short guys, but I'd say that the larger majority of us don't really mind.  I'm six feet tall and my last crush was the same height as me.

And of course you're not a freak, it's ridiculous that you would even think that!  =]

Answer 8

people would DIE to be your height!!

trust me =]

all the models are around your height.

be proud =]

i'm 5 ft 3. and constantly wear heels to looks taller!

lucky girl! =]

x

Answer 9

Why are you worried about what people think ESPESIALLY guys Boys should like you for who you are not what is in your belly

Answer 10

are you kidding me !!! 140 isnt FAT for a 5'9 inch girl !!! your 2 young to be worrying about that.. embrace your body the way you are.. you might have great advantages , you might have a body of a model , etc.. love yourself the way you are and you arent a freak!! your normal.. im 5'5 and im 19 years old & i love myself the way i am.. i think tall girls are very beautiful !!! and if your not skinny , then what are you? i definitely know you ARENT fat..