5 Year Old with sometimes aggressive behaviour?

Question

My son just turned 5 & has been exhibiting aggressive/impulsive behaviour since he was 3. He was diagnosed with having a social/language delay & currently has a speech therapist. He wasn't able to express himself & it caused him to become frustrated. 2 years later & he is still having issues in school. He's now in his second preschool. It is either an impulsive reaction or him protecting his space/toy. I don't have any behavior issues with him at home, aside from normal 5 year old stuff. He's a very loving, bright, imaginative boy. He's extremely intelligent & his teachers are amazed at his academic level. At my pediatrician's request I've taken him to see a neurologist who told me he "might" be showing signs of early ADD. I've done tons of research and he does show some symptoms. But he's also spoiled, self-centered, strong willed, bossy & the only child. My husband and I are trying everything I can. But I need some help from parents who experiences the same types of behavior.

Answer 1

My little sister is like that. I know its not the same as a mother but I am always home and always with her so its pretty much the same.  She was diagnosed with ODD(oppisitional defiant disorder) and seperation anxiety. Some kids are just aggressive but other times there are issues they dont know how to deal with. My sister would come home after a kid would make fun of her and push the whole family around. Tossing stuff and yelling and screaming. He may not know how to cope or changes in schedules or life might be weighin on his mind.

Please watch when you take him to doctors about what they diagnose. Doctors are so quick to diagnose kids and people with things these days it doesnt matter what it is. Get multiple doctors opinions and even try a nutritionalist or some homeopathic stuff.

Answer 2

My son is 5 and was doing the same thing.  My husband and i took him to a psychologists who specializes in children with aggressive disorder.  It turns out my son was acting act because of changes at home (new baby, long hours at work).  He recommended positive praise and time for just him.  For his time we take turns so it is always one on one.  He creates the rules, as long as they are reasonable, and we just go along.  It has been working like a charm.  He still has his days, but nothing like he used to.  Just be firm and praise him for the good things he does, it will turn him around.