5 and 1/2 year old and wets/poops hisself?

Question

My brother is 5 1/2 and he poops hisself during school hours. I know that some of the factors are that he resents his homelife. His stepdad and dad don't really want anything to do with him. My mom is working since the stepdad is not exactly my choice of a good male and is an uneducated male who has nothing to his "name". I try and explain to him that isn't the answer to get attention and I give him a lot but I can't take the smell. He has to wear pullups to bed and they freak out when he sits on the furniture. So, what can I do. I can't exactly take him to the doctors since I wouldn't know where to begin. I tell him every hour to go for 15 mintues but I forget myself. I told him in a couple of years he can come live with me.

Answer 1

he must be stupid

Answer 2

Maybe it will resort to him needing to wear pullups during the day? I think poohing myself would be more embarassing than wearing diapers that no one would know about. But also, the previous point is also good, because if he is being sexually abused, his anal sphincter will be looser, and it might be more difficult for him to hold in his pooh, or even determine if he has to go or not.

Answer 3

I dont know how old you are but you ahve to find a way to get him help! If he did not do this before, abuse is a definate possibility, someone could have done something to him that caused him to have physical problems with his bowl controll and that possibility needs to be ruled out! Outside of that there are MANY medical possibilities, and remember that smelling, being outcast, being yelled at, feeling dirty, are all VERY unpleasant for him, and it is very unlikely that a child so young would do such a thing purpously, and once all the physical possibilitis are ruled out, then you can look into mental issues. Listen, talk to your mom, if she wont get help, call child protection services ar talk to a school teacher or guidence councelor. I know you might be afraid to do that because of what might happen, but if your mom does not care enough to help him, then it needs to be done and right now you may be the only person who can help him.

Answer 4

Wow, that is a tough one.  When I went through training for foster care & during being a parent of foster children I experienced this problem.  Don't want to cause you more stress but most causes of bowel movements in his pants at this age would lead me to ask has he been abused by anyone.  If you suspect this you need to try to do something.  But, the best you can do in the meanwhile is remind him as often as possible.  Talk to your mom about what she can do to help him.  Let her know that this is not good & try to get him some help.  He may have IBS also, that is something to look into.  He may also have a different medical problem.

Answer 5

someone needs to speak to the school counselor and a doctor immediately!

Answer 6

Well if you can't get any help, offer to your mother to take him to the doctor for her. Calling to make an appointment is the easy part, just tell them that he needs a checkup and is pooping his pants. Then get the insurance card from your mother and pick him up and take him there. When you get there explain the problem and your worries and you won't have to worry about the mom or the dads being around. If that is not possible, then you may need to call CPS or let him move in with you now. (There has to be some reason you said you would let him in a couple of years, did he ask? If so he is practically screaming for help.) Good luck, I hope things can get resolved.

Answer 7

SPARE THE ROD........

Answer 8

Good, that's what I was going to suggest, talking to a Grandparent.  You brother could well have a problem with his bowels and not be able to control the p**p.  This happened to my son at the same age and it turned out he is allergic to the lactose in milk.  It would just make him go without being able to hold it.   Mom needs to take your brother to a doctor and get the little guy's life on track.  If there is no relationship with Dad or Stepdad it should not be forced.  Mom needs to just ignore their actions towards him.  He is way too old to be doing this.  Most kids like to hold it instead of going and your brother's problem is so opposite.  A doctors visit must happen right away.  I hope I helped.  You will be a great Mommy one day you know! : )

Answer 9

You need to go to a counselor and tell the counselor all this stuff.  Somethings not right here....