5 out of the ten people invited to the Bachelorette party will contribute money. How do I do this?

Question

OK. I've already accepted teh fact i'll be footing most of the bill. But, for the ones who can't contribute financially, how do I work this out with the other girls that did. I'm getting the limo, hosting, probably getting the decorations/cake. Someone else will have to buy food, drinks. These are not closenit friends, mind you. Some know eachother, but a couple don't know eachother at all and only know the bride.

I can already anticipate someone will not be happy they are footing the bill for someone who didn't pay anything. What do I do?

Another thing...the limo can only hold around 8 people. How do I work this out? Should only the people that contributed to the party be allowed to ride? It can't fit everyone, and I can't afford something larger. We're getting a Cadillac limo and that's that.

Help! Should even the people who aren't paying be made to at least put in $20 for the limo driver's tip and/or something else?

Answer 1

When did the world become so focused on money?

You paid, you are privileged.

You didn’t pay, you aren’t privileged.

Everyone should contribute with what they can, not what another person wants them to.

And then, based on what’s collected try to arrange for what is actually possible to make the evening special.

Where I come from, it used to be like this: the person who is holding the party is the person who pays for it. Friends and family members can help if they desire, with what they can afford. They are not obliged.

But I guess my hometown watches too much TV, and they started getting these global ideas of: come to the party and play BLA AMOUNT.

For such ideas, I think there should a ticket (not literally), just like when we go to the movies… you want to enter this movie (in this case, bachelorette party), you pay this ticket.

But at the end, it’s really not fair. Someone wants to celebrate their “new step in life” and everyone else has to hurt their bank accounts to be a part of this celebration.

Answer 2

Oh my dear.  This sounds like a mess.

First off, don't you have bridesmaids and a maid of honor.  They should be doing the planning for you.  They also generally coordinate money so that you can have a good night.

Why are you inviting 10 and getting a limo for 8??  You should just ditch the limo and rent a car.  Or arrange for someone to drive you.  You can't exclude two people from the limo!!  You're really going to upset a lot of people by doing this.  I know you want your 'Cadillac Limo'...then organize a taxi or some other transportation for the others.  I don't understand how you plan on doing this.  Do you expect those two girls who don't fit in the limo to walk between bars or hail taxis while you're off in your limo??

I'm sorry, I'd be really upset if I was invited to your bachelorette party and told that I wouldn't be in the limo, instead I would have to find my own way to get around.

Do a pot luck!  Organize a menu.  Say you're BBQing steak and veggies.  Assign each of the girls a task - say three people are responsible for bringing 3 steaks each (ask one to bring four) - steaks are expensive so split things up.  Then you ask 3 other people to bring veggies.  Or be more specific and designate one girl as carrot bringer, one as tomato bringer and one as cauliflour bringer.  Ask another to bring some dessert.  Ask another to bring salad.  Another brings bread and the other brings some potatoes.  That's not hard!!

You also ask each girl to bring a bottle of something alcoholic.

This works a lot better than presenting a tab to everyone and demanding money.  

You're probably expecting a gift as well.  ...you probably also want a shower gift too??  and then an actual wedding gift??  I know weddings are really expensive, but you do have to help your guests a little.  For a typical wedding in which I'm invited to the bachelorette, shower and wedding, I usually end up spending 400$ - not to mention I need a dress and shoes and all that fun stuff.  

Don't start excluding people from events - like the limo.  You're just adding extra drama for your wedding.  

You should call up everyone who is attending and say, "we're renting a limo, it's going to be 25$ per person.  Let me know if you want to come in the limo.  Otherwise you can organize a cab".  ...granted, you're totally screwed if everyone gives you that 25$...lets hope your "excess" friends just don't show.

You do need to delegate some tasks.  You can't just tell someone to buy all the food.  You also can't just tell everyone to bring something.  Be specific.

Answer 3

Those that are not contributing for the limo do not ride in the limo plain and simple, no ticky no shirty.  Those that are paying do not need to know about the ones not paying if you do not have to charge them more, people talk so best to keep this to yourself.  Funny if I did not have the money I would not go, yet that is me.

Your a good friend to do all this for her.  Have fun!

Answer 4

I would have sent out official invitations saying a $20 cover charge was mandatory for the party.  If someone doesn't pay, then they don't get to go.  It's a bachlorette party.  They will live if they can't go to it.