5 weeks pregnant, getting married this weekend, don't want anyone to know yet, wedding toasts etc.?

Question

I have been planning our wedding for months now and exactly one week before it we found out that we are pregnant! We couldn't be happier, but being only 5 weeks along we don't want to tell anyone yet. The problem I have is I was planning on drinking with toasts and drinking in general, my girls and I had planned to have tequila sunrises and what not so it will be very obvious if I just decided not to drink. What should I do, is it safe to just drink a little for the toasts, I really don't want to do any damage to my baby and I know that no amount of alcohol is safe but we really don't want to tell everyone yet.

Answer 1

Tell your matron of honor (in confidence) thant you are preggers an dget your own bottle of alcohol to toast with. Get an empty bottle and fill it with something that coul dnbe easliy mistaken fo rwhatevr came in the bottle to begin with. (just don't let anyone else get into or they might find you out.Congrats!!

Answer 2

Congrats!  Some suggestions... for the toast have some cider or sparkling juice (no one has to know whats in your glass).  As far as your friends just tell them that you've been to one too many weddings were the bride has drank too much and you are only getting married once and want to remember every detail so you are holding firm to your no drinking rule.  True friends will understand.

Answer 3

First off congratulations on your wedding and the baby. I think its ok to drink a little. I'm sure if wont affect the baby since your only 5 weeks along. My advice to you is don't get drunk or tipsy. Just drink sips and you should be fine :)

Answer 4

It will be safe to have a SIP for a toast or you can just fake it.... put the glass to your mouth but don't drink it. No one will notice! And just tell your girls that you don't want to drink because this is a special occasion that you want to remember everything and not get drunk on your wedding day! Also talk to your husband about possibly not drinking with you for that day. You guys can just play it off that you decided to stay clear headed for this special day!!  

Answer 5

The first answer pretty much says it all. A minimal amount of alcohol is ok. I don't think i would have the tequila though. Good Luck and I hope that you have a great wedding. :)

Bethany

Answer 6

For the toast, have the caterer bring you sparkling cider.  I don't drink, so my caterer did this for my wedding.  I and the junior bridesmaid & groomsman all had cider while everyone else had champagne.  As for your girlfriends, tell them that you and your fiance decided that it would be really romantic to not get plastered at your wedding, and to be able to remember the night, not pass out when you get to your hotel.  Even if they start pushing you about it, you can use the excuse of having promised your husband.  This will require his cooperation too, so the only drink he can have is the champagne at the toast.

Answer 7

i think ur alowed a glass of wine but thats it not sure but the tequila sunrises thou congrats  

Answer 8

You can always make slight substitutions with the bartender. Let him/her know to make yours non alcoholic...no one will be able to tell especially if you are drinking tequila sunrises. Substitute your champagne for sparkling white grape juice.

Maybe tell your maid of honor or one that you can really trust not to say anything that way you have someone on your side to make sure that you are not getting any alcohol! That way noone knows but he/she can also help you play it off.

I would not risk drinking any alcohol.

I was just married 3 weeks ago and planned on drinking alot at the wedding but I ended up not because there were so many people to talk to and so much to do. Plus I didn't get to eat much.

Good Luck and Congrats with the baby and wedding!

Answer 9

it wont hurt to just have a little. Actually my doctor told me that I have have 1 beer once in a while or a glass of wine. Also most people dont know they are pregnant until much later than you and then they worry about when  they drank before they even knew they were pregnant. Doc says if you didint know you were preg, then you are fine.  

Answer 10

just buy yourself a bottle of sparkling grape juice. if you are pretty sure that someone is going to ask you at your wedding why you aren't drinking, mabye you could tell them ahead of time and beg them not to spill the beans! that way, you won't have to answer in front of everybody at your wedding.

congrats on the wedding and pregnancy! i hope this weekend goes well for you!

Answer 11

You could drink ginger ale, that looks like champagne. At least for the toasts. And if anyone tries to top it off with alcohol you could maybe say, "No thanks, I want to keep a straight head for tonight" LOL, congrats!

Answer 12

My step mom was pregnant she had sprite in her glass. It bubbles so no one even knew she wasn't drinking.

Answer 13

Don't you dare drink alcohol!  You sound like you are more concerned about saving face than you are about the health of your unborn child.  You can have virgin drinks.

To the poster that said it wouldn't matter since she is only five weeks along-This is a very critical point in the baby's development.  A lot of miscarriages happen at this stage of gestational development.  The fetus is very susceptible to alcohol.

Answer 14

well hun first off congrats on the wedding and the baby

well what i would do is a couple of days before tell everyone you are not feeling to good so your going to the doctors then when they ask say he has put you on antibiotics for a uti and you are not allowed to drink at all ha ha might work hun and i think a toast drink would be fine good luck and again congrats