5 year is worried about things that I didnt think they thought how can I get him to be less self concience?

Question

my son wants to play soccor but is affraid he wont run fast enough. wants to try karate but not till he is 12 and strong.

My husband and I are very confident people and we encourge their self esteem and I just dont Know what more to do?

Answer 1

Encourage him to try out many different types of activities or sports until he finds one that he likes and feels comfortable/confident doing.  Explain to him that EVERYONE has difficulty with at least a couple of things they try, but that its ok not to be good at something.  Maybe ask him if a child at school or daycare has been giving him a hard time about not being strong enough?  If so, maybe you can talk about things that he IS good at, hopefully that will help boost his self esteem.

Answer 2

I think you should write a list of 100 positive comments about your son, such as "I can run very fast, I can kick real hard". Then record yourself saying these comments onto a digital voice recorder. Burn those comments onto a CD several times over so you have a CD running for about 20 minutes. Then, try putting the CD on to play to your son while he is alseep.

You see, even though your son might doubt his own abilities, you can trick his subconscious into listening in to these positive  comments. If you play this to your son for a few nights and be consistent, I believe he will start to think differently. Try it and see for yourself.

Answer 3

So your 5 year old is worried about things that you didn't think they knew about.  And you want to know how you can get him to be less self conscious?

Easy.  If your kid wants to play soccer, let him.  And if he hates it, take him out.  There's nothing to it.  Don't make him do something he doesn't want to do, but if he wants to give it a try, put him in.  And besides, you don't have to run fast to be in soccer.  You do realize soccer has defensive positions, right?

Answer 4

Tell him that he will run just as fast as the other kids and he needs to try if he wants to play. Also let him know that even if it does not work out that he still needs to try because it might be really fun and exciting experience for him. I hope this helped.

-Tara

Answer 5

Put him into soccer, put him into martial arts.  He will LEARN to be faster and stronger.

Answer 6

Just explain to him that as long as he tries his hardest it doesn't matter if he runs the fastest...maybe he'll make a better goalie than a runner...or maybe he'll be better closer to the net because he's an awesome kicker...take him out and practice with him and just keep encouraging him.  He might just need to hear that you have confidence in him doing these things??

Good luck!

Answer 7

my five year old is starting soccer in the fall and he had some concerns that he might not be good enough. I told him to remember when he couldn't write his name or ABC? I reminded him it took him a LONG time and Whole lot of practice until he was able to.  And i remended him it is ok not to be good at one thing because it only means he is good at something else. HE should try it and practice makes perfect as the saying goes. But make sure you are not giving the message you want him to be the best or perfect-he is picking it up from somewhere. I would not let him not try! Because then he learns that what he is afraid of he shouldn;t try. I do that to my son adn he ends up enjoying it and forgetting about those concerns. Good luck!