5 year old daughter using restroom in her pants?

Question

i have been in a violent abusive mentally and phisically relationship with a man for 7 years. in this time we had a daughter who is now 5 years old. she is still having issues when it comes to soiling herself and not wiping when she does go to the restroom. i do not know how to discipline or parent the situation. she is very tempermental gets upset easily and is very attatched to me. she has seen drug usage , mostly pills me and my ex were extremely bad on pills. since then i am clean and i want to do whats best ,but she seems to know way more about s*x and asks questions about relationships. i am worried ahe has mental issues from what she has seen from the past and although i have cleaned up , her dad hasnt but stillwants to be a part in her life. since the split she has mentioned things about her dad that makes me nelieve he is still using. my question is has anyone out there experienced anything similair and what can i do to help her... im at my wits end and just want her to hpy

Answer 1

b  ready andm cousling and dr help & help dont b afrade 2 ask 4it cuz wat she seen and u gone4 through is more then a person / child should go through there is  more help 2day then ever aand asking 4 help is the first step 4 her 2no that theirs life witout fear so go and call coulclers hosples peatreans and support groups they will guide u 2 the right way dont give up umm keep fath keep looking 2 the righ way

Answer 2

For kids to soil themselves is a way to control their surroundings. Just have her take care of her "mistack" be nice about it . get her another change of clothes and be persistant on a bathroom break with reading materials.

Also, contact a child abuse advocacy and find where there is counseling for your child.

Guardian Ad Litems are national, and they would have a list of resources for you to use. Another place is the United Way also has a list of local resources for children that have experience abuse and/or neglect.

Im glad to hear your passed all that, and hope you continue to stay strong for your child and stay clean and out of unhealthy relationships.