5 year old wets herself daily advise please....?

Question

its a bit of a long story but here goes, when my girl was 3 a nursery teacher locked her in the toilet and threatened her that she would stay there forever which frightened my little girl to death, thank god another teacher witnessed this and the teacher was sacked, anyhow since then my girl is scared to go to toilet alone and has wet herself daily, she started school recently and even her teacher is now fed up, we have tried reward charts,sweets, praise, taking her every half hour, we have been to gp , had urine tested

im due at doctors again with her this week is there anyone who has been through this, is there something i should press my gp to investigate, thanks for your help.

Answer 1

Maybe it would be better for you to bring her to a child phsychologist as it sounds like it's more of a mind thing than a medical problem??  

She must have been teriffed at that age, bless her.  Good luck in finding a solution ;)

Answer 2

Talk to her tell her noting will happen to her like that again and just tell her you love her!

Answer 3

it's just a fear, she will out grow- make sure she is using hall bathroom with other children and not  small one toilet bathroom. i went through similar experience as a child and i didn't like any small spaces like closets or elevators. maybe send her with extra pull ups because even though she will grow out of this the other kids will remember it and tease her  for aa long time.

Answer 4

go to the nursery teachers house and beat the living p!ss our of her

Answer 5

Tell your daughter that you will keep the door open for her (to ease her fear is of being locked up). You may even have to hold the outer door open for her while she goes all the while assuring her that the door is open.  start at home - baby steps.    It is hard to reestablish trust in a child once it is broken by someone who is supposed to take care of them.

Answer 6

Grrrr. That nursery teacher should be punished and sued.. It will take a lot of patience to get through this. I would stop school now and be with her to many other toilets where there are people around only YOU are with her. Go with her and let her lock and unlock the doors just very calmly matter of fact not discussing whetther she urinates or not at that particular visit.  I doubt this is a physical thing so wouldnt want to subject her to Dr tests just yet. I think its that memory. Horrible.

Answer 7

a protector bear. Buy a teddy bear. This bear has magical power of protection. As long as she hold this bear nothing bad can ever happen to her. encourage her to use it every time she uses the restroom. Also try standing in the door way of the bathroom while she goes in with protector bear. You will still be there but she will start to trust protector bear. Let the teacher know whats going on so she to can encourage protector bear, and ensure nothing happens to it.

If there is any one that she trust very well (besides you) have them give her the bear and explain the magical powers. OMG i got it... you know those letters from Santa companies. Contact one of them and explain what happen. Let them know that you would like a letter from Santa saying that he saw what a good little girl she is and he knows she tries so hard but she gets scared some times like all little girls. So just for her he had his elf's make her this bear that would protect her from everything so she will never be scared again.

Answer 8

How frightening for anyone for that matter. My heart goes out to you. No child should have to experience that type of treatment. I am so sorry. I think that you should talk to a councelor about this issue. Also, if she is just afraid to go to the bathroom by herself have someone go with her for the time being until she feels comfortable enough to go on her own.