6 year old boy question?

Question

My son is shy when it comes to playing in groups and is not very assertive, he is more of a follower, soccer he just runs beside everyone and wont go after the ball, he seems more shy around groups of kids rather than adults, he wanted to play hockey this year but I feel he isnt ready, im worried when he starts grade one about the other kids if they pick on him, he wont defend himself, how do i teach him to be assertive and stick up for himself, do they outgrow that??

Answer 1

He will grow out of it.  I spent ages worrying about my son trying to get him more involved in things and when I quit he pretty much did it for himself, he turns 8 this year and is fully participating in quite a lot of sports and is really good at them too!  Its like he just didnt want to start till he was ready.  I shouldnt worry and I hope this helps.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with being shy. But if you are worried about it, encourage him, that also means letting him try hockey if he wants. He's never going to learn if he doesn't get the chance to try. Also, maybe consider a karate class. It is good for the self esteem, plus it's good exercise and teaches discipline.

Answer 3

He will casually out grow it . But you should always tell him to invite people over and let him do what he wants. Always bring people over for him to play with it will help!!

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Answer 4

They tend to outgrow it, but send him over to hang with my granddaughter...she's just the opposite!!

Answer 5

He probably think's he willl mess up... I was like that when I was 6. I guess he's just afraid of being made fun of or messing up for doing something right in the game...

Answer 6

Try going out with other mums with young children which may be family friends and try doing activities to help gain confidence and give that extra push which may help him be more social

even going out to the park with a friend of his may make him feel more comfortable

most likely he will grow out of this stage but it doesnt hurt to help on the way

it sounds like your trying and im sure your efforts will be successful

i hope it all works out =]

Answer 7

I think you should ask a therapist for help.  they help alot and NOOO they are not for crazy people!  I think your son will love school.  Maybe he needs more practice with kids his age and kids that are not his age!! Good luck

Answer 8

You could tell him if someone's bothering him in school, he can ask them to stop and if they don't tell a teacher.

Answer 9

Martial Arts....my son is not very aggressive or assertive either, and the Master at the Tae Kwon Do center that I take him to noticed this about him right away and said he would focus on helping my son build self esteem and become more assertive.

Find a great instructor....and this might help your son.

Answer 10

Talk to him