6 yr old son and his "private area"?

Question

We live next to a house with 3 girls. The oldest is 8. Today my son was caught with his pants down and the other girls were looking. Later my son said that the oldest girl told him to pull them down so she could touch his private area. He said that she did, twice. This is not the first time this has happened. I like to think he is bullied into doing it because I have told him over and over to tell her/anyone no, no means no! but I guess it isnt working. So my question is ...Is this notmal behavior for a 6 yr old VS someone who is 8 and going into 3rd grade. We have had the private area talk dozens of times. Im just worried about him and letting someone bully him into something so easily. The parents and I get along and have told one another when we catch them doing these things, Im just tired of it and it worries me.

Answer 1

I say you can't stop the kid from seeign his friends but "you" should go talk to the kids.Its more effective i find when it is someone else because the kids will never know that persons reactions versus her parents reaction

Hope it all works out for ya (L)

Answer 2

yes, they just discovered a new tool so of coursee there gonna show it off

Answer 3

I would get everyone together, all the parents and kids on both sides and we would all talk about this. I would make all the parties involved agree that this not an appropriate way for friends to behave, all parents are here and on the same side, and will not continue. I would also set a punishment for everyone involved if this is a repeat offense. The age difference is not a problem, if this is normal curiosity. Kids do this. Also explain that  it is o.k. to be curious, and it does feel good when you touch it, but that does not make it o.k. to ask someone to undress. Explain that any curiosity can be handled by the moms & dads."You don't see us touching each other there as adults, so why would it be o.k. for you kids to touch each other there?" Tell them that you'll be watching them for a while to see if they are following the rules. Teach them that respect means friends don't do this to each other, or ask other friends to undress.

Answer 4

I do think this is normal for the most part even though there is an age difference.  If you have a good relationship with the other parents I would ask them to have a talk with their daughter. At eight years old she is obviously very curious and under informed.  They should be giving her more information and boundaries, so she is less likely to try to "figure" things out on her own. As for your son.  He's very young, but if I were you I would be perfectly straight with him.  He should know that he only removes his clothes in private and that nobody is allowed to touch him.  Help him practice saying "no".  In the mean time I wouldn't let them unsupervised.  They should play in the common areas of the house and have an adult paying attention.

Answer 5

MAYBE HE LIKES IT.

WHEN I WAS ABOUT 6 MY OLDER CUZIN THAT WAS 7

WOULD TRY TO STICK HIS HAND IN MA PANTS AND LIKE FRIGGIN TRY TO RAPE ME!!! SO U NEVER KNOW

Answer 6

i would be worried also. My advice is not to let your son go over to the kids house.

Answer 7

Most of this is normal curiosity but should have stopped once it was discovered and rules set.  I don't think he's being bullied but since the girls and your son won't follow the rules you've clearly stated, then further consequences need to happen.  Reduce the amount of time they play with each other and they must always be in the line of sight...no forts or hide outs etc.

Answer 8

the children are normal.  remind your son that this is not appropriate behavior, though.  teach him (and yourself) the appropriate words for his body parts.

Answer 9

No more playing with her...no,no. Maybe if you had said she told him to pull his pants down I would so "ok,kids are kids and they are just curious". But,this little heffa said "let me touch it" Heck, with being nice... I would catch her little tail with no adults around and let the little "hooker" in training  know that I will beat the "brakes" off'a her behind if she touches my son again.

Answer 10

I would not worry about it much.  At 6 he probably is rather curious himself and I doubt it would take much bullying.

You may want to approach the 8 yr old however and give her the task of making sure that it never happens again.  Don't accuse her, but rather make her in charge of everyone keeping their pants on.   If she is bullying, this will change her attitude about the situation.   If she is not bullying, she will use her new found authority