6yr old daughter diagnosed with adhd!?

Question

we have raised her meds 2 times already! she can concentrat a lot better it but she still acts out alll the time.she will slam doors cuss tell me she hates me tells people when they can talk. she will get really upset if she says something then wants yout o repeat it and you dont say it word for word as she does.tell people she will beat them up.is mean to her 2 yr old sis.throws her on the ground.wont stay in time outs spanking does nothing to her.i just dont know know if it is adhd she has.but is very calm at school.also is very smart for her age.if she doesnt get her way she will throw a tantrum for hours till you give in.none of the ideas supper nanny has used will work on her.we tried sticker charts and everything!! anyone have any advice or think it may be something other than adah!! please help

Answer 1

have you talked to her to see if maybe she is just frustrated you say shes smart maybe she is just tired of school they told me that my son may have adhd hes 7 but  he didnt have it talk to her when shes having a tantrum ask her what is upsetting her and what will make her happy when shes not being herself comminicating is the key

Answer 2

there is a comertionel do that.

Answer 3

You're lucky I saw this. I am 11 years old and have ADHD. Just to begin, kids with ADHD usually are very smart, and we think different from other people.  You see, ADHD (Attention Deficient Hyperactive Disorder) causes kids to act very hyper, and are known to throw temper tantrums, and get very upset after being punished.  Yes, she does have ADHD without a doubt. Now, the condition goes away as she ages. In fact, my uncle, a boy who rode around in the front yard naked on his tricycle, now drives an airplane. She will not be like this forever.

The best way to get through to her is sit her down and talk to her. When you punish her, she will punish herself after you are gone. So, you need to talk to her. Tell her what she has done wrong,  and tell her that it is wrong. Explain to her why she shouldn't do these things. It always works with me.  Now, you might want to give her a spanking usually, but words effect ADHD sufferers more then physical punishment.  Also, if you take away something special, it effects us too. if you msut, strip her room of everything but a matress, a sheet, and a pillow. Just threatning to do this makes us think twice.

Your daughter is very different. This telling people she hates them, threatening people to beat them up, is completely normal. I still do it today. Also, the rivalry with her sister is normal. People with ADHD think in a different way then other people. We wonder more then we conclude.  We act very devilish when we are younger, and we get very smart-alckey as we reach our 10's. She is a normal person with ADHD. If you do punish her, and she recites insults to herself,or tries to hurt herself, make her stop. Talk to her. It will make her stop. Slap her if you must.

Answer 4

Have you tried a good old fashioned spanking when she treats her sister that way or yells at you? Maybe that would work.

Answer 5

sounds like shes really angry on the inside.  she may have something other than ADHD. sometimes doctors are real quick to diagnose it. but try to spend some days to observe her behavior and take notes on the things that happend that may have triggered her anger. also if you are exhibiting anger and frustration then she will recipricate that on others to relieve some of the stress.

take your notes for a second opinion and maybe that will give you some more insight into what she is really feeling.

sometimes the medicane can make them really angry like that and if it is indeed ADHD then you may have to find a way to refocus her energy, the medicane only gives them control on concentrating when normally they cant but it doesnt take  away the extra energy they have built up in such a controled enviroment.

also try ways to teach her the consenquences of her actions, and not just punishment for something she believes she has the right to do.

good luck and keep hope in your baby girl!!

Answer 6

Is there really something wrong with your child or do you not know how to set boundaries. I think there is something lacking in your power over your 6 year old child. You need new tacktics. Guilting a child by telling them they are very disappointed in them is one of the best ways to control your childs behaviors. Also, Stick to your guns. If you say something...mean it and  always do as you say you are going to do. Too many parents threaten to disapline without doing anything they say. SAY IT, MEAN IT, DO IT. Also perhaps you should trying placing her into some kind of sports. If she truly has high adrenalin and anger issues then perhaps some exercise will help work it out of her. She sounds like a little terror and you surly have your hands full. Good luck.

Answer 7

ADHD is commonly misdiagnosed.  I would get a second opinion.  My son was improperly diagnosed.  

If she really does have ADHD the medication is typically just to help with schooling.  When they get home, the meds wear off and you have twice the problem.  You may want to talk to your doctor about a smaller dose twice a day.

What stands out in my mind here is you saying that she is very smart for her age and acts up until you give in.  Sounds like everything is just fine for her, she has you trained very well.  Just give her what she wants sooner and avoid the mess.  Who should be in control here?  Don't give her stickers, don't give her anything unless she can play nice.

Answer 8

meds are not the solution...just part of it......consistency is the key.....first have simple rules like if she is violent(physically or verbally) she has a consequence....with my son his consequence is the computer(he has ADD) and it works totally....so find her weakness.....praise her for good behavior,give her responsibilities.....don't give in no matter what at first it will only get worst but eventually it will get better.....at one point I literally had to sit on my son's legs and hold him down because he was attacking me...I did that till he calmed down....that was my breaking point...the next day I called a social worker to help me and she referred me to a educator and he comes weekly to give me ideas and helps me solve any new problems I may have with him......he was 5 now its 5 months later and he is doing 100% bbetter....don't be afraid to get outside help.....

and by the way having ADHD doesn't mean you are not smart.....my son is smart for his age too...it's just a myth because before the children were diagnosed late in elementary and where far behind because they struggled with concentration so they couldn't get work done....but when they get diagnosed early the can easily follow and concentrate after.....

Answer 9

The best care in the country for this problem is rendered by the National Academy of Child Development.  Go to NACD.org.  They have people to help all over the country.  You just have to trust your intuition as far as trusting my advice.  They are the only people I would trust.  The average doctors will say they know what they are doing but they do not.