7 year old behavioral problems?

Question

My 7 year old boy won't listen to me at all. Is there any way I can get him to stop? I have already taken away 3 weeks of computer, 2 weeks of playdates, among others. I took the days first, then weeks. This is ridiculous! How can I get him to stop?

Answer 1

that is weird!

it is ok this littel girl she go frantic when she sees a crumb!

little kids are just like that.

Answer 2

he's gotten out of hand and needs a firm hand from every adult in your home.  when you're talking to him, make him stop whatever he's doing and look you in the eye.  don't yell/scream/get hysterical.  simply tell him the consquences, and follow up swiftly and with no further discussion.  the consequences should escalate.  Taking away PC, etc for several weeks hasn't worked, so try something in the here and now: early bedtime, no TV, no going out anywhere but school, no playing with other kids after school, time out in the corner, etc, etc.  if he resists (as he will since he now thinks he can get away with just about anything), turn off the TV, put him back to bed (as many times as you need to), and don't cave in to any of his demands.  If he asks for something don't give it to him, telling him that since he's not being cooperative, you won't either.

Answer 3

All kids at one time or another go through stages in their life. Whether it is not listening, or throwing temper tantrums. It is probably a phase, but don't give up, be consistent and this too will pass. The only things I can suggest is sitting him down and talking to him at his level. Taking things away is a good idea, but doesn't always work. My older kids it work for, my younger one, it didn't. She has alot of energy, and didn't know what to with it (constructively that is). So we put her in recreational soccer, amongst other activities to use up some of that energy. Little by little she became a better listener, but on occasion we still have to get on her for not doing what we ask (she is 13 now). I do believe giving them constructive activities outside of school to use up some of that energy..

Good luck

Answer 4

This may seem silly at first, but have you had his hearing checked?  Sometimes there is a real problem.  

The other thing is are you carrying through the punishments or are you giving in when it becomes too hard or you become too busy to enforce them.  My only other suggestion is to put him in a corner for a time out, but not five minutes, make it a good time out and give him something to read.

Answer 5

well i have a 7 year old like that....the biggest thing is not to punish them for too long or else they will have resentment towards you .... like if you stick him on time out they are only supposed to be on there for what ever age they are.... like i have a 2 year old and hes on for 2 min. and my 7 year old is on for 7 minutes if you put him on for say 20 minutes it gives him time to think that you are a bad person for sticking him there for that long but if hes only on there for 7 minutes h**l cry and think he shouldnt have done what he did..... just take the thing/things he loves.... like my boy loves his gamecube so i threatin him with that.... it means more when they care aobut something..... i really hope it works out for you... kids arent as easy as everyone thinks they are!!

Answer 6

Find out what really matters to him.  My boys don't care if they are grounded, lose TV time, have to go to bed early, etc...  The only thing that matters to them is their stuffed animals.  We took them ALL away and they earn them back (that's their allowance).  If they are bad, they get taken away.  It's solved  A LOT of our problems.

Now that baseball season has started, taking away a practice has worked as well.  I don't pull them from games because it isn't fair to the team if they are short a person, but they don't like missing practices either, so that works for us.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Maybe you can call the NANNY from NANNY 911.  I heard she's goods with kids who have behavioral problems =T

Answer 8

If he is not listening to you -- don't you want him to start, and not stop?

Answer 9

Nanny 911?