8 year old boy fighnting?

Question

ok this is the 3rd time my son has been suspended from school for fighting its different kid every time so i know its my son w the issue i cant get through to him, he has both parents but dad works, and we have tried almost everything, the school has no counslers and right now we have removed tv and toys from room, but i need some advise we talk and talk and lecture and lecture and honestly spanking dosent work and besides i think hes to old any ideas

Answer 1

good for you for accepting your son is the problem. Most parents won't do that so make the problem worse. So already you are 1/2 way there.

Strip his room of everything but a mattress and doona. Then every day that he comes home with no fights he gets one thing back (your choice of item,not his) . Inform the teacher what you are doing and ask her to either email you or send a note home informing you how his day was. Talk with the teacher also on a behaviour plan for at school

Answer 2

get some counseling for your son, talk to his teacher, spend some time talking with (not to) your son.  look at options other than public school.  he may need more stimulation for his brain than he's receiving currently.

Answer 3

Don't assume the meds will make his school work suffer!  Have you talked to your doctor?  If he does have one of those attention disorders it can be a lifesaver for him. Don't dismiss them out of hand because they really have turned kids around who genuinely has an attention disorder.  Not every kid needs them that is prescribed them, but if anything , they make them more calm and focused and able to concentrate on their schoolwork.  

I wouldn't take the school's word for it but if your doctor thinks it's appropriate, it might be the next step.

Edit:  I just saw your edit and yes, I think that is significant! I went through something similar with my daughter in preschool - kids wouldn't play with her, she became a trouble-maker. It took like one day of watching her with the other kids to see that no one would interact with her.

Answer 4

What is going on with these children to make your son want to fight with them? Is he being teased? Try getting him into some therapy outside of school, he may have some anger issues. Also enroll him in some sort of karate class, this will help him learn patience and let him vent his frustrastions. He may also be looking for a little more attention, so spend a lot of one on one positve quality time with him.

Answer 5

How about taking him to counseling that would help allot in this situation if you tried to talking and everything you tried failed try counseling is the only way out