8 yr old twins-they refuse to wipe their behinds after going to bathroom--why does my brother keep doing it?

Question

My twin nephews (who are 8) and have some learning and developmental problems (ADHD and ADD) refuse to wipe their behinds. They can, because they do so in school. When they are home they call out for their parents or brothers to do it for them. I told my brother that he is not helping his kids to grow up, what are your thoughts?

Answer 1

sounds like they are using the kids developmental problem to keep them as babies, i bet if one of the other children in the family called out at 8 they wudnt do it

Answer 2

If they are able to do this at school- then they can do it at home. It sounds like the boys are controlling their family.

As long as they continue to help them they will keep asking.

Answer 3

wow my friends daughter does that too. but i personally think its because they know (the twins) that their getting older but they want to contiune to get babied idk, its just a thought,. Hope this helps!!!

Answer 4

he should teach their kids cause when their parens r not gonna be around the hole life and when they get married their wifes r not going to clean their behinds they have to learn....their parents should teach them when they were 4 years old....and a advice dont clean their behinds u dont have to is not ur responsability ok....

Answer 5

I agree with you

Answer 6

It seems like a control Issue on your brothers part....He doesnt want them to grow up. Or it could be they do not do a good enough job, instead of teaching it is easier to do it for them.

Answer 7

It sounds like your brother and the rest of the family are trying to keep these boys like babies.

You are right--he is not teaching them how to act grown up by wiping them. This is something that they should have done as part of potty training when they were 2-3 years old.

Tell your brother to get them the wet wipes. Stand there while they use them and continue to instruct them to wipe more. They need to be consistent.

Answer 8

I think that habits can be hard to break. Your brother may have just lost control of the situation. I agree that your brother is not helping his boys, but he probably doesn't realize this.