9 year old boy with anger outbursts at school?

Question

My 9 year old son is normally a loving happy child. Since Jan. he has been having angry outbursts only at school. Easily frustrated and at worst has blind rages sometimes not remembering exactly what happened. He's been telling my babysitter lately that he is being teased and one boy specifically that joined the class in Dec. has been pushing him and whatnot. Not sure what to do.

Answer 1

My little brother who is 10 years old experianced the same symptoms.(he also had a bully in his class who would push hit and punch him& he had random outbursts of anger) My mom took him to a phsycologist (however u spell it) and then he had some anger management. After we finished that we learned that the random outbursts was partly caused by ADHD- now he is on ADHD medicine and he has been through enough management to notice when he is going to have a outbrreak of anger and how to control himself.

Answer 2

Beat the **** out of him!!!!!!!

Answer 3

First, talk with his teacher, and tell them to monitor the situation. Or bring it up with the principal, talk to the administration.

There is no need to involve a psychologists or counselour right away. Children tend to try to get themselves out of as much trouble as they can, and the teacher most likely can't remember what he said either. Be careful of a diagnosis of ADHd, it is much overhyped.

Also, get him involved in sports, give him an outlet.

Answer 4

I would say that this child needs to go to counselling.  Having rages where he does not remember things sounds like the sign that he has some type of mood/psychological disorder such as bipolar.  I would get your son into counselling and onto medications.

Answer 5

You need to go talk to the principle! Obviously this "new" boy is harming your child!

Answer 6

Talk to his teacher and principle. Bullying isn't supposed to be tolerated in school. Your son could be suffering from traumatic experiences with this other kid. You also need to talk to the school counselor. If the teacher and principle don't do anything about this other kid, take it to a higher level. This is harming your child mentally and physically and you need to get him into a better environment. Also, try to teach him to stand up for himself. Also, try to get him into some activities to help build up his self esteem.

Answer 7

You need to get to the root of the problem - someone is somehow abusing your son (not necessarily sexual).

Encourage him to talk to you (or the babysitter, if he's more comfortable with that).  If he is being bullied , take it to the school principal and his teacher with a deadline for some type of action on the school's part.

You may also want to take him to a psychologist to help sort out his situation and help him deal with it.

Answer 8

The only thing I can think of is to teach your son how to deal with any anger issues (deep breathes, counting to ten). Also let him know that if anything happen with the boy he needs to notify an adult so that they can handle it. Unfortunately he'll have to deal with people like this for the rest of his life, poor kid. Good luck!

Answer 9

first, speak with son at length.

then schedule a conference with his teacher and the counselor.  the other boys parents can be alerted.

this needs to be addressed because even if your son is being victimized, he can get into trouble over his rage. at my daughters school, one 3rd grader was expelled for outbursts and screaming at faculty.

Answer 10

Teach him karate.  It'll help him understand selfcontrol.

Answer 11

First off, you need to talk to the boy's teacher and/or playground-recess supervisor and see if he/she has any information on the issue. If you get nowhere with the teacher, escalate and talk to the school administrators.

Most school districts have psychologist as well who can be helpful in trying to track down problems of this sort. There is always the chance that something like a learning disability or ADHD has reared it's head.

Either way, you need to sort this out as soon as possible. These are very formative times in your son's life.