9 year old son prefers to play with girls..should I worry?

Question

My 9 year old son prefers to interact with girls than boys. He always had a more sensitive side than most boys. He was never that "rough and tumble" kind of kid. He is also very smart and is able to express himself more with the girls. Now I will say that he does play video games, loves his cars and enjoys baseball. But it seems he is more comfortable with the girls because they seem more interesting to him. I will also say that he did mentioned that he had a crush on some girl too. But it also seems that he is not too interested in hanging out with some boys. We don't talk about it but my husband is a little concern that our son does not "connect" with the boys and he thinks that he will be teased in school. I also get the feeling that he thinks it's too "gayish". I love him how he is but I think my son wonders if it's normal. Anyone out there with a similar son?

Answer 1

I think your son is fine, in fact him being friends with girls makes him more understanding of a female and how their minds work, which in the long run might be awesome for his future girlfirends/wife! I know I always had a thing for hanging out with only boys and it helped me understand them more so now I'm not so lost when it comes to how a guy thinks, also I'm not as sensative as normal females, I still get along MUCH better with guys than I do with girls. I would just let it go and maybe have more play dates with the guys so that he does learn how to interact with the boys, DO NOT take away the friends he already has just try adding a few more boys to his friendship.

Answer 2

I think that your son is absolutely fine.  When I was younger, I usually preferred playing with girls, simply because boys his age are just so incredibly obstinate around their peers.  That's not to say I didn't have any guy friends - it's just that the majority weren't.  I'd also give it a bit more time.  If he like video games, cars, and baseball, it won't be much longer before he finds someone else that shares these interests.  Besides, in about three years, he'll be the envy of every guy in the school =]

Answer 3

maybe he should be introduced to sports..like soccer and such ..maybe the comoradere boys have will help him out..nothing wrong with being a sensitive kid, but maybe hes just trying to "Play doctor" with the girls..u may have a casenova on ur hands..lol