9 yr old brother still wets the bed?

Question

my little brother is nine yrs. old and he still wets the bed. we've tried a specialist, bribing him, even pull ups and he still does. He is suppost to go to a sleep away camp in a month but my mom stays if he doesn't stop he can't go. i feel bad for him, even though he says he doesn't care. Help!

Answer 1

sounds bad but i dont think anyone can help

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sorry

Answer 2

i had this problem with my son and the doctor prescribed him a nasal spray and it worked a treat x

Answer 3

It sometimes just happens... some of my siblings still do, the oldest one that still does is 12.... so it's not as uncommon as it seems. I don't think punishment or bribing will help... unfortunately there's not a whole lot you can do yourself in the way of helping, because it's all up to your parents. My mom found that preventing permanent damage to property was the best way to deal with it - don't make a big deal about it, just cover the mattresses in plastic sheets underneath the regular bedding, and then make the child somewhat responsible for cleaning up after himself. Humiliation or punishment will probably just make it worse. You, as the big sister, can basically help by telling him that it's OK, his body will learn how to stop one of these days, and just be there for him anyway. He'll probably appreciate it if you help clean up the mess with him too.

Oh yeah! Poster below reminds me. DDAVP is great.

Answer 4

I KNOW THE PERFECT SOLUTION!

This worked before on a family member. Try a placebo pill. Yes just a sugar pill. Wetting the bed may usually be just something psychological.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Not that he has a psychological disorder or anything but this will work. Tell him the placebo (in case you don't know it's a sugar pill) makes him stop wetting the bed. This  gets him to believe he won't wet the bed.

When he sleeps that night odds are that he will wake up dry. Give him the pill a few times and make him take a few to camp. When he comes back feel free to tell him that it was a placebo. He will be surprised at first and maybe not believe you but sooner or later he will be convinced. He should stop wetting the bed.

Answer 5

My brother and I each wet the bed until we were about 12 years old, although it got less frequent as the years went on. The problem was that we were each such heavy sleepers that we wouldn't wake up in time to go to the bathroom. In fact, sometimes I'd have dreams about going to the bathroom only to wake up in the midst of going in my bed. By then, it was too late.

For us, it was just something we had to grow out of, although we never went to a doctor and I guess, according to other responses that there are medications or things he could take. Otherwise, I know there are pull-up kinds of underwear that are made specifically for bed-wetters. As the kid, it's embarrassing and I often chose to not go away because I was afraid it might happen. In the end, your mom getting upset isn't going to change anything. My parents tried everything from waking us up in the middle of the night to yelling at us for wetting the bed. If the reason he does wet the bed is due to being a heavy sleeper, this will decrease with age and he'll grow out of it. Meanwhile, you just have to make accommodations for it now.

Hope this helps, and it's nice for you to be concerned for your little brother :-)

Answer 6

Show your mom this email !!!!!!  Your Mom needs to take your brother to his pediatrician and ask for a prescription of DDAVP.  It is SAFE & works!  The problem is that your brother probably has a small bladder.  Tell him when he needs to go potty to hold it as LONG as he can during the day!  Over a few months, that exercise will stretch his bladder.  The DDAVP is a pill (you can get it as a nasal spray), but I suggest the pill.  When your bother takes it before bedtime, don't let him drink very much liquid....only a sip or two.  It WORKS!  I had the same problem with my daughter.  She went to a week long camp at school - never wet the bed and even slept without pullups!  After about 6-8 months of the meds & exercise....she has NEVER wet the bed since - 9 years!  (p.s.  the med is very inexpensive)

Answer 7

Two thoughts on that. 1) Was he sexually abused? 2) Maybe his bladder is on the small side still, and when it gets bigger he won't have that problem. The other night I saw a commercial for the diapers that fit more like underwear and don't gap, but I didn't catch the brand name. If any of the other answerers say that commercial maybe they can tell you what brand. Not letting him go to the camp is a terrible punishment. This might be something he can't help, and not letting him go there might crush his little heart.

Answer 8

Tell him you want to help him get over this as fast as possible as you know it can be embarrassing for him too. Whatever his bedtime is make sure he has nothing to eat or drink atleast 2 hrs. before bedtime and going to the bathroom before he goes to bed. Also you can even try things like I want to help you so for everyday you go without wetting the bed you'll do something for him whether it be make his bed for him, giving him a dollar, something to motivate him to try a little harder. You might even for the first week or two set an alarm to go off every few or several hours and tell him to go whether he thinks he has to or not. The more embarrassed he is about it it seems the longer it takes. Children who wet their beds should not be punished or scolded. And boys often take longer than girls to become dry at nightThere are also products out there that claim to help like Be-dry. With a bedwetter, there's always the lingering fear of what's going to happen while they are asleep. And it's not a good feeling. Also there are plenty of books on the subject to give you more ideas.

Answer 9

I am sorry to say that he my have to grow out of it.  I was almost thirteen before I actually stopped.  My mother took me to the doctor and the he told her that it was the milk htat I drank at school that was making my bladder weak.  I stopped driinking somuch milk and she said it improved alot.  But I have a child that does the same thing, and we put her in Goodnites, and we are still coaxng her  about what she drinks and how much.  Hope this helps!