A BIG problem!!! Please help

Question

Im pregnant at 14!!!! Im only 2 months gone and im not showing and my parents dont know. I dont want to tell them because im scared they will chuck me out. I dont want to have an abortion because i will regret it. My boyfriend says I should tell my parents and hes going to look after us. I have no idea what to do. please help me??

Answer 1

you need to worry about yourself and your body. go to the doctors asap and find out for sure.

Then I would tell someone that both you and your family are close to that you could confide in. explain the situation to him/her. then both of you would sit down and get advice on how to break it down to your parents. Both of you then sit down with your parents and break the news. you will feel more comfortable with another person there.

either way there is alot of help out there nowadays and you are not alone. It is a little scary, but in the end it is a blessing.

:)

good luck  

Answer 2

you are going to have to tell your parents....you have to get good medical care for you and your baby....just because you are 14 you have to grow up super fast. you may think your parents will come down on you, they probably will, but then they will also have to deal with it themselves.....if you have a sister a brother an aunt uncle talk to them first...and see if they will go with you to talk to your parents.  

Answer 3

Well Im sure its hard for you to believe, but at 14 this so called boyfriend of yours is NOT going to take care of you. Your parents on the other hand just might. Then can't throw you out at age 14, so I would just stop worrying about that. It seems to me that their lack of parenting is what got you into this mess, so they should be there to suffer the consequences right along side of you. Its sad so much ignorance in the world. These poor babies not being raised as they should be! Did you consider adoption so that baby can have a good life with a family with good jobs and some money to buy its needs? I'd think about that and think about getting your head on straight and going to school.

Answer 4

you have to tell your parents.

im 14 too and i was pregnant i didnt get an abortion

but i lost the baby.

you need to talk to your parents im sure they

will understand

Answer 5

I think you should tell your parents. Parents have all the answers they will not kick you out, they love you. You will need to do a lot to take of yourself for the new baby your parents can help you. See the movie JUNO. I also think that you should put the baby up for adoption lots of loving couples are looking to adopt and some will even pay for everything including the hospital bill. I know it will be hard to give up your child but it will be the best thing. Believe me my mother got pregnant at 17 and gave me up. Now I am happy to be here with a parents who love me and can give a good life.  

Answer 6

the best way is to tell them to truth. there isn't any way to cover it up as its impossible. and i agree an abortion isn't a good way as its a bit cruel in some ways and it wouldn't feel good either. just tell them, and hope for the best.

I Really Hope This Works Out, And I Hope Your Parents Are Ok With It.

Answer 7

my parents would kill me , I'mm 14 andhave a boyfriend of 6 months.

I'mm never that intimate. My 18 year old sister has a child of 7 months.

They werent impressed with that.

And tbh , I'd recomend putting it up for adoption or an abortion.

You've still got our whole life ahead of you.

I have to say , i'm scared crapless of doing something my parents disagree with.

best of luck x

Answer 8

allana, you have to be grown up about this now, and sit down with your parents and tell them, things cannot be undone and you cannot be forced to to anything you dont want to, but you really have to tell your parents,  

Answer 9

you need to tell them very soon. they will be less angry because you were honest. it would be better if you did that instead of them noticing your appearance changes and losing their trust. i know it will be tough but it is the right thing to do. Good luck with being a mother.

Answer 10

Consider adoption at a local social services or church.  It's a brave and commendable thing to do.  Then you can go on with your life without the regret from an abortion.

And, tell your parents as soon as possible.

Answer 11

Wait wait,slow down,you just asked a question yesterday saying you wanted a boyfriend,and now you have one?And now your pregnant,dude stop seeking attention.

Answer 12

You won't be able to hide this forever so you need to face the music and make arrangements to keep it or adopt it out. Don't have an abortion. If your boyfriend said he would help, then take him at his word and allow him to. But you are putting off something that has to be talked about. Your too young for this, I hope you have learned?

Answer 13

Why are you being silly..you don't want to be in labour when your parents find out!

Tell them..if they support you, good.

If they don't, you'll have to make your own life.

Answer 14

you might want to tell them before its too late cause they might be mad you didn't tell them right away! they will aways be your parents and be there for you.

do whats best for you !

good luck  

Answer 15

well i think you need to talk to your parents.

and maybe a good way of telling them is by seeing "the secret life of an american teenager" on ABC family... every tuesday night 8/7c

and i think seeing it with them might prepare them for the news ahead!

good luck!

Answer 16

Tell them, the longer you wait the more trouble you'll have. You are only 14 and they still have a great deal of responsibility for you, I'm guessing they still want to take care of you and try to help you.

Good luck

Answer 17

You need to tell them right away. They will eventually find out, whether you tell them or not. It's better they hear it from you then from someone else. Sit them down and tell them. Of course they will be angry. That's something you should automatically expect. If they are caring parents, they will help you deal with it. Tell them that the father is willing to help. That he wants to be there for you and your baby. Then see how it goes from there.

Answer 18

Tell someone you trust ( your parents, his parents, your friends parents, a doctor, a counselor, a teacher).

See a doctor, you will need medical attention!!

Pray, eat right, don't drink and smoke.

Stay in school, make good grades, go to college.

Good luck, you'll need it!

Next time, have safe s*x.

:)

Answer 19

What most pregant girls used to do was get married as soon as possible without letting their parents know about the pregnancy, then their parents assumed the pregnancy accured after the marriage.

You can legaly get married at 14 with your parents permission, just tell them that you would rather be married then be in a non commited relationship.

Answer 20

yesterday you haven't had a boyfriend for ages. same 5 months ago. i think if it's attention your looking for, look some place else. this seems like a popular thing to ask on here today. everyone is 14 and pregnant. i think it's to rack up alot of answers. wow

Answer 21

You need to let them know now and figure out how theyre gonna react, so if they do kick you out, you can get your game plan together quicker.

Answer 22

you should ask them in a question like "Mom, dad, what would you do to me if i was pregnant?" But don't have an abortion, what ever you do dont have an abortion.  

Answer 23

Do you have an aunt or close family friend that you feel more comfortable talking to?  They could help you with telling your parents.

Edit:  Just yesterday you said you haven't had a boyfriend in two years.  Either you're trolling or you new beau works really fast!

Answer 24

This may sound harsh, but you need to suck it up and pay the consequences. Your parents will be very disappointed, anyone would be. But your their daughter, and they want what's best for you. You need to tell your parents. It'd also be beneficial for your health and the baby's. You can't hide it forever.

Answer 25

i think the best think you got to do is to tell a member of the family you trust most.and seek counseling and advice.i wish you a safe delivery

Answer 26

14..oh dear...i was a virgin at your age..

well there is not much you can do tbh..

you have to tell your parents..

prepare your father to be angry at you..

fathers take it really bad when their little girls get in trouble..

your mum should be the one who'll get angry

but will support you after all...

i wouldnt listen to your bf tbh...

as sad and horrible as it is..

but he is still a boy probably and doesnt

get the whole picture..

you're pregnant and it's time to be adults..

good luck

Answer 27

HOLD UP!!!

wait a minute i juz looked at ur profile and yesterday u had questions about gettin a boyfriend,

u had questions bout gettin a boyfriend a lot??

hmmmmm..............

r u lyin about havin a baby??

i mean dats not cool

y would u do dat??

Answer 28

your parents wont chuck you out. if they really loved you they wouldn't chuck you out, youare their little girl :) as for the guy, im pretty sure if your parents knew he wanted to help. they wouldn't let him so that will be another issue. keep the baby. as for your boyfriend, see how long he stands by for. i'm sure he wont last unless hes good....

all the best, use contraception next time :)

Answer 29

tell them, so that you can get some prenatal care if you intend to have it.  Pregnancy is very hard on a grown womans body, and you are still growing so it may be really hard on you, your baby could have a lot of congenital problems.  I hope you realize how difficult it is to raise a baby especially in these times, and how you will have to make that baby the first priority in your life, if you decide to raise it. Parentng is not something you can take a break from just because today you don't feel like doing anything. Its a thankless job.  If you decide to have an abortion, talk to your parents about birth control....

Answer 30

in my own honest opinion. i would suggest you tell your parents. choose the one you get on with most and tell them first. break it down slowly. be honest. and then it will work it out.

im against abortion too. but your parents may decide its the best way.

do you feel as if you can manage school and baby?

its your decision in the end. but tbh. i would just tell your parents so someone knows. maybe get your boyfriend to come with you for moral support when you tell them. okay hunnie? dont worry. itll be ok