A Dillema ... ditch my bf or my mates?

Question

Normally i hate these sort of questions but i really need ur help!

I agreed to go out clubbing with my bf and his mates this saturday about a week ago and today i have been asked to go for a drink with my mates as one of them is off to uni & we won't see her for about a year.

What shall i do?

Answer 1

To me that's a no brainer, go with your friend, she's leaving for a year, your boyfriend isn't.

Answer 2

if your boyf is a decent guy he will understand that your friend and you wont see each other for a long time so you should really see her....failing that invite her out with you and your boyf and his friends and all have a night out together.....the other compromise would be to go out with your friend and meet your boyf towards the end of the night. Like i say if your boyf is a reasonable person he will prob be a little miffed but he will understand.....good luck

Answer 3

Ditch the bf, can't you both go out on seperate nights for one night? Won't hurt will it? He'll love the freedom anyway

Answer 4

Good friends will understand guys come first..

Answer 5

choose your mates love,

but if your a bit concerned, show your boyfriend this and think of something fun for you two to do together to make up for blowing him off

:)

Answer 6

yes it can be awkward cant it, how close is the person to you who will be leaving for a year, if not really close say youll go for an hour and meet up with your bf later, if your really close your bf would understand cos he ll be here next weekend you could go out then, or could you all go out together might be more of a laugh. or simply your bf asked first you already made arrangements with him so stick with that, whatever you decide hope you have fun x  

Answer 7

You should of course go with your friend, over the next year you can go out with your boyfriend whenever you want to, if you are a true friend and you want to remain as a friend to this girl, then you know where you should be, if your boyfriend does not want you to go with your friend, then he is controlling you and once that starts, it will not stop, friendships often last a lifetime but a relationship with a boyfriend can be short lived.

Answer 8

you can go out clubbing with your bf and his mates anytime. You can't do anything with your friend for 1 year.

Answer 9

you can go for the drink but upto some limit

Answer 10

ditch ur bf..

Answer 11

could you not get your bf and his mates to go out with your mates as normally the more the merrier. as if u chose your matesthen ya wont enjoy yourself as you wil be feeling guilty and vice versa.

would yours mates choose their bf or would they choose you!!

you had already made plans so dont fall back on them or even if you go with ya bf and then meet up with ya mates in the pub or nightclub.

your friend might be annoyed but you just have to explain that you are goin  to be with your bf for the future and that you wont see her in a year sure she would understand.

hope this has helped.

Answer 12

arrange for ye all to go out together!! Simple!!

xx

Answer 13

Just enjoy, have fun and move on!

Answer 14

of course you are going out to see him...your bf you can see him any other night you want..

but your friend after 1 year, or you can tell to your bf to come with you

Answer 15

go out with your friends.you wont see her for a while so make the most of it while your friends here :-)

Answer 16

Ditch the bf and if he is the right guy for you, he would understand :)

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Answer 17

dont ditch him tell him u r goin with ur mates and if he is having some grey matter than he will understand it

Answer 18

no dillema here,

go out wid your friend

Answer 19

take ur bf along with and go to ur mates get together party. cool

Answer 20

your friends are meant to be there for you no matter what, that is why you should not lose them. GO out with you friend and if you find it hard then take your BF with.

Oh and dont listen to roberto d, he/she clearly does not realise that everyone is different and have a different opinions

Answer 21

I would call bf..and tell him I have to care for my mom?...dad ?..little brother ?...me ?..that got..feel sick..and that I'll see him tomorrow or next week...and I would go to hang out with friend that will be away for a year or so....since I can always party and hang out with bf.

( and believe me...bf..won't accept nor understand if you tell him the

truth...he'll view it negatively that you did not want to hang out with him and his buddies..at least that is how most st*** males ..take it...lol..not me ofcourse.

Answer 22

cant u go to both? go out for a drink and then meet ur bf after? or maybe arrange to all meet up in the same place? im sure ur friends wont mind espeically if ur bf asked u to go out first  

Answer 23

of course your friend because she wont be there for you a whole year..your guy will understand...

Answer 24

FRIENDS! 100% - always choose your friends before your boyfriend - i made the stupid mistake of doing the opposite and then my boyfriend left me and i lost EVERYONE! - go give your friend the send off she deserves :) it's a good night out as quite a lot of people i know went to uni on monday.

have a good night whichever you choose but make the right choice.

Answer 25

I'd go out with my friends since one of them is about to leave for a year.

Your boyfriend should understand.

Answer 26

NEVER!! NEVER ditch your mates for a boyfriend.

Go out with your mates

When lovers break up, good mates are always there.  

Dont ditch him either, just tell him the truth and he should understand (it will also give him the chance to eye up other girls when he is out with his mates... lol... joke :-D ).  

If he doesnt want you to go then he is not worth keeping...its heading down the slippery pathe of being controlling, which is really really bad news... that is when  you ditch him for good.

Answer 27

see your mates, they're leaving for a year...  you can always do things with the bf anytime...  if not, you will find another and replace him with a better version I'm sure.  He'll either understand or be getting over himself wont' he

Answer 28

You have a couple of options - you could ask your BF if he minded you postponing til the following weekend and if he says its fine go out with your mate but if he gets funny speak to your mate and say look sorry but I've already got plans can I meet you the day before and go for an early drink with you or just go for a couple with your friends then meet up with your BF later.

Answer 29

I know exactly what your talking about. i was you in my situation and i said to my gf that my mate was going to wales uni and we were all getting together sending him off so we wouldnt be able to go out that nite (we had planned a nice romantic meal etc) she kicked off and was a d**k and i finished her.

The thing is in the past i have been the person being told that too, another g/f i had wanted to see her mate before she moved to australia and my words were simply go, have a good nite and make sure she leaves with all her good mates saying goodbye. ill still be here tomorrow. txt me in a bit or when your home so i know your safe.

i dont see what the issue is - tell your bf if he kicks off hes a nob as he will still be going out with his mates!!!!