A Last Wish?

Question

My best friend has approx. 6 months to live. She would like to meet one or both her birth parents. All she knows is where she was adopted and that it was a closed adoption. Please help find answers for her; time is goin by to fast. I'm not getting anywhere and she's getting worse.

Answer 1

I'm in Australia - so can't really help (I'm figuring she was born in the USA)

Here are the usual places I direct people for searches in the US - for a start.

Can she get ANY info from her adoptive parents - documents - name of adoption agency - anything????

Check for information on state records here -

http://adopteerights.net/nulliusfilius/?...

To see if the state she was born in has open records or not.

Check here for search help - and links to free search angels -

http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

Add your details to the registries here

http://www.isrr.net/

http://registry.adoption.com/

And check here for any support - it's the best online forum for adoptees I've found -

http://www.adultadoptees.org/

All the very best with the search.

Answer 2

There isn't enough information here to do this.

Answer 3

Go to the media!  Talk shows...  newspapers... congressman...  the President...  (with her approval, of course).  Make phone calls, write letters.  Share her story.  Someone just may know something.

In closed adoptions, I think people are allowed to insert letters into the file, even though they can't "open" it.

Set up a website and pass information along an email forward system to get the word out.

Just be careful of phonies.

Best wishes!

Kristy

Answer 4

Based on the urgency of her situation, I would try petitioning the judge in the county of her birth to unseal her records.

It's still a long shot, but I would try it.  You just never know.  I would also appeal to the adoption agency or lawyer who handled the adoption, and have them search for her mother to ask for contact.  It sucks that she has to get "permission" but based on these circumstances, what can you do?

Best of luck, I hope she gets her wish.

Answer 5

I don't really have any answers other than see what her parents know.  But I do want to give my good wishes about this.  I hope that it gives her the peace she is searching for.

Answer 6

I would think that the media would jump all over something like this. That is what I would try!