A Question for women why is this?

Question

about two days ago i was crashed on my cousins couch. and her two other sisters and a friend were talking and they started arguing about the the fact that she had so dude who she was not going out with but just having s*x with and she was mad. The other girl was mad about how she went after some guy she went out with once before.

So here is my question is it a rule between women your not allowed to go out with another guy if your friend is having just (not going out or anything like that) s*x with him or used to go out or have s*x with him.

Answer 1

i dunno it's kinda just a general girl rule:

don't date friends ex's or flings!

Answer 2

I have always thought it was a sort of unwritten rule. Many girls don't see it that way however and are quite ruthless about moving in on another girl's territory.

Most guys don't understand this but the "friends with benefits" thing is really hard on women. Most of us get emotionally involved with men when the s*x is good so you end up in love with someone you agreed you had no ties on. This leads to great insecurity and unhappiness.

If a girl is sleeping with a guy and then he starts to take her friend out - really take her out not just having s*x - can you imagine how worthless the first girl would feel? She was not good enough to calla girlfriend but her (ex) friend is.

See? When you think about it like that it is easier to understand I hope.

Just remember this when you deal with women

Men use love to get s*x, but women use s*x to get love. That's why it's all so confusing out there.

Answer 3

I would never date anyone my girlfriends are associated with romantically or sexually. It just isnt done between good friends.  

Answer 4

I don't date or have s*x with my friends ex's, men they have had s*x with, people my friends are or have been interested in, or friends of my ex.

It may not be every womans rule, but it is mine.

Answer 5

Uhm, no.  If I am done with him or she is done with him, who cares?

It's funny you ask this of women.  My girlfriend was widowed a year ago and several of the husbands old acquaintances have said they want to date her but the "guy's code" forbids it (and he's DEAD).  She's taken a few informal surveys and every guy she's asked has known exactly what she was talking about.  We were wondering if there is some class in grade school they teach this c**p to you guys.  

Answer 6

Yes there is an unwritten rule that says that. And usually when someone does that the other person has nothing to do with the guy or the other girl.

Answer 7

Uuuh yeah!  you never date a guy that your friend has dated, had s*x with, or even had a crush on because it causes too many problems.. there are so many other guys out there to choose from, why choose one that your friend has had.

Answer 8

if you think about the idea that when you are with a person you are with everyone they have ever been with it would be gross.  It would mean that you were with your friend and that alone is enough to make me stay away.

plus it is just common courtesy

Answer 9

In my book, it's not a good thing to do, at all.  It may seem innocent at first, but things will turn ugly, and quick.  If somebody is seriously that interested in somebody their friend had dated, or had s*x with, it's always better to communicate this with them first to see how they feel about it.  Unless they are 100% okay with it, do not got there.  Period.  

Personally, regardless of if a friend was 100% okay with it, I would never do it.  There are so many men and women in this world!  Why waste your time on a hand me down from a friend?