A baby or my job?

Question

I want to have a baby so badly I am 34 years old but I run my own law firm and love it. My husband is a brain surgain and he loves his job too. Should I give up my job for a baby or not. Or should I try to get my husband to give up his job (he wants a baby too). I would never want to have a baby and leave it alone with a baby sitter all day. I don't know what to do!!!!

Answer 1

You can have a baby and just go back to work when he/she start school. Don't look at it like you will have to stay home forever, you have done your time at work now go be a mother, it is always more rewarding then ANY job.

Answer 2

Can you compromise - hire a nanny for 2 or 3 days per week, and scale back your practice so that you're working only part time?  You get to set your own hours so it seems like you're in the ideal position to have the best of both worlds.

Answer 3

No one ever said day care is not ideal situation.  But it's better than no child at all.  Have a baby and get a day care near your law firm so you can visit at lunch.

Answer 4

Hmm...seems as though there could be a better compromise that "either husband quits or I quit." I know it takes years to become an attorney as well as becoming a neurosurgeon...it would be a shame to just give all of that up (unless you truly want to) in order to raise a baby.

Answer 5

Your the boss!!  You make the rules!!!  You make your own hours.  Bring your baby to work and start a daycare AT YOUR WORK, then you can see your baby everyday.  A daycare can be a great benefit to your employees, plus it's a tax write off!!!!  Charge your daycare rent to your law firm.

Answer 6

you may love that job but nothing compares to having a baby =]

Answer 7

It sounds like you folks are financially stable.

You can. I do it. I know it's hard to leave a baby with baby sitters all day. Just hire a nanny that is trustworthy or best.. your family member.

Just compromise with your time.

Answer 8

hmmmm.  Have you considered working part of the week out of your house?  My father is a lawyer..now he has been doing it for a long time so this may be different...but he is able to do the majority of his work and communication from home.  That of course assuming he isn't traveling for a case.  You could set up a office with a fax machine, phone, computer and try doing that part of the week. Then for the rest of the week you could hire a nanny.  My aunt is a nurse and she works 3 days a week I believe and they have a nanny for those days and they really love her.  I would say you and your husband just need to sit down and see if there is a compromise you can make.  Good luck...and I personally think you should have children if you are both wanting one so bad.  Good luck!

Answer 9

i would have a job, instead of a baby. having a baby is a hard time

Answer 10

just ask yourself this question! if years pass, and i remain child-less, how would I feel?

do you think you'll be disappointed?  is your job fullfilling you completely?

one other thing.  a baby is not an accomplishment.  it's a gift!

good luck...i hope you find the right solution to this dilemma.  i'll pray for you

Answer 11

Would you have enough money to where the nanny could come to the office with you?  Your situation cannot be that black or white.  Good luck.