A best friend cheating on another best friend, how do i resolve?

Question

If your a best friends with a guy that is dating a girl and the guy decides to try and cheat on the girl by asking another best friend to go to his camp site and have s*x with another girl how would you deal with it?

I had promised the girl if he had ever tried to cheat id tell her but he is my best friend, but then again she is also my best friend, and he would want me to do the same as i would do for her.

would you tell her hes going to cheat. or would you keep your mouth shut let her get hurt and then later possibley loosing her as a friend because she finds out you never told her....

Answer 1

I would get sick and go home. It is not fair to make you the ever present snitch and have to "tell" on friends to friends. you can't win.If you must, tell them you can't be the loyalty meter.

Answer 2

He's the one lying.

Eventually he'll probably lie to you about something.

If you really want to get involved. Tell her. And have proof. That way it's not you against him. And that way you don't lose them both.

Answer 3

You've got a choice to make.

Either way, one of them will resent you.

If all else is equal, he's the one doing the wrong.

She's the one you owe, (and have promised), protection.

Answer 4

Talk to your guy friend and tell him that his behavior is unacceptable. He's your friend, and you care about him, but this is not going to happen. He either needs to break up with the girl first, or keep it in his pants...if he already did it, tell him he was a jerk (1) for cheating and (2) for putting you in that position. Tell him you still want to be his friend, but he is making a choice. Either he tells her or you will...If he already did it, and he gets mad when you say she has to be told, who do you really want to side with? A cheating liar you care about or someone who is innocent you care about. He doesn't have any right to be mad about getting caught for doing something awful. He made the choice, so he will have to live with the consequences. Why is he still with her if he wants to have s*x with someone else anyway? He should be considerate enough to let her move on with her life before she gets hurt. I don't get how some people can be so selfish!...if a person doesn't want to be committed and faithful to one person only, then be honest about it and not waste someone's time and energy toying with their affections....Best friend or not, he is defitely not a good boyfriend, and he's not a good friend to you if he put you in a position to have to choose...I say stand behind your promise and tell her the truth....if he is man enough to tell her himself, good; let her know that you are sorry he hurt her and you weren't going to let him continue, and you will be there for her as a friend...good luck...