A bunch of teen boys want to "jump" (aka "collectively beat up) my son. What can/should I do?

Question

My 15 year old son got into a very ridiculous argument with a friend of his from school when they were hanging out here at our house. Both boys (my son included) are very stubborn and thereafter (this happened about 3 weeks ago) refused to call one another or just get over it and go back to being friends or whatever. Now, I found out from my son that "john" and 2 other boys have plans to jump my son when school starts back in 2 weeks. "John" has apparently done this to a mutual friend of theirs one time before and uses this one boy (let's call him "Mike") who just LOVES to fight to do it with him along with a third boy. This boy, John has gone camping with us and has spent the weekend at our house and always seemed to be so polite but I am now finding out he is not such a nice kid which is why my son did not go out of his way to reconcile with him. His attitude was "good riddance". Now my son who is not a small kid at all, he is just not a fighter, is very worried and upset about returning to school. These boys have called and threatened him over the phone and just tonight called and said they are on their way to our house RIGHT NOW to come beat him up. I am very stressed about this and angry and am not sure what I should or can do. These are the options I have thought of but none seem to be very good:

#1 Call John's mother and hope she can put an end to this. THIS will doubtedly work as she is a single mom with little or no control of her 5 boys (the rest are older). She also rarely, if ever, answers the phone so my telephone call to her would be intercepted I'm sure. Also the mention of this mortified my son as he does not want to be seen as a "mama's boy".

#2 Call the police. Ths doesn't seem very good as they really cannot do anything untl something has actually happened.

#3 Just do nothing and let it play out and hope he isn;t too badly hurt when it happens and then it will just be over with. I could take legal action but only after the fact. THIS just kills me to even think of.

#4 Change my son's school. THIS is not really an option as he goes to a very good school and does not want to leave his school at all. It is his 2nd year of highschool and he is doing well there. One of the programs at his school was even featured on Oprah for goodness sakes!

Well those are the options I have thought of. As for tonight, IF they do come to our door my husband will answer it and take care of it like and adult however, I am even worried about how that may play out as the one "fighter" boy named "Mike" has no respect for adults or authority. My son is 15 and I know I cannot protect him forever but still, what can I do??

Answer 1

3.

look whatever you do eventually, at some point in his life h**l get beat up. so just let it be. h**l be okay. and after they fight itll be over. thats basicly what happens whenever my guy friends get in a fight.

one time my friend ended up breaking my other friends nose.. but 5 minutes later they walked into the classroom laughing and joking around.

if its not over after the fight (if he continues to threaten your son) call the police.

OR you could ask your son what he wants you to do. but im gonna asume itll be 3.

oh and tell your son to tell that john kid to stop being such a ***** and fight him one on one. if he was really so tough he wouldnt need his big strong boyfriends to beat him up for him.

thatll put that loser in his place lol and make it more fair for your son.

:DDD  

Answer 2

i wouldnt do anything to them.. ur son can handle it himself.. if he does get beat up then call the police. but dont do anything before hand.  ur son will hate u if u do

Answer 3

I'm about your sons age and ive seen c**p like this all the time. They are just bluffing . But if they do approach your son in a voilent manor tell him to stand tall. And if he does get hurt you can press charges. DO NOT change schools. That is a wussy thing to do. He will seem like he is afraid.

honestly dont get involved at all.

unless it gets voilent.

Answer 4

2

Answer 5

well you are able to call police, if your son is afraid to live his life normally then there's a problem, as well as these boys can be charged with 'uttering threats' so get the police involved definitely, you don't have to wait for something to happen to do that, you would regret is big time if anything serious did happen  

Answer 6

This is coming from a 15 year old girl who has been in the same situation as your son. . My idea would be to leave everything alone. Most of the time its just big talk. And in case something would happen take like you said legal actions. I understand your concern as a mother since my mom was in the same situation. Like you said calling the mother of the other boy would only make your son look like a "mamas boy". Calling the police would  only be an option after the fight! Change the school would only be running away from problems that almost every teenager has to face in school.  I hope I could help a little bit && Lets hope nothing happens : )

Answer 7

1 first.

And if she does nothing, then 2.

The police should get involved, and once they do, you might want to reslult to 3.

You want your son to feel comfortable and safe.

Answer 8

i know this situation all to well cause i got 5 brothers and they've all been jumped or jumped someone or been thretened wat ill tell u is the whole threat thing doesent always follow through and they could be only tryin to scare ur son

if they r serious then really there is not a whole lot that u can do cause u cant be with him every second and the other guys will take any oppritunity to jump him they may not wait for school

all i can really tell u is to keep an eye on ur son if he's goin outside make sure he is with a group becuase the other guys may not do anything if there are a group of people

if ur son is home alone dont let him answer the door or phone if they know he is alone then they will make their move

yes contact the police where he was thretened they can prolly do somethin and look into the situation

and then let the other guys know that uv got the police involved (even if u dont) because that may scare them off

thats really all the advice i can give ya hun

im sorry bout ur situation

good luck <3

Answer 9

Just tell him to talk to "John" and try to make up or something.  

Answer 10

Homeschool, worked for me.