A child and inappropriate poses??

Question

A child who plays with my daughter (they are both 3 )displays some inappropiate poses that apear to be in a sexual manner eg pulling one leg up in the air and holding it there and poking her bum out as if to say look at me. I dont want my daughter to learn these habits and feel that maybe she is learning at as a result of the parents watching p**n ect when she is in the room.I cant see how else she would pick up such behaviour what do you think?

Answer 1

Do you really need someone to tell you????

You already know the answer so either you are making this question up for fun or you are in denial because it is convenient to have neighbours that have kids your own age to play with nearby or babysit for- if it is the latter - WAKE UP you're own kids are in danger!!!!

1. Don't let your children in their house ever again.

2. If you have already spoken to the parents that watching p**n or leaving it around children is innapropriate behaviour and they have ignored you - phone your health advisor and tell her - leave it to her to decide if social services need to explain to the parents why this is not a good thing to do.

3. The last thing to worry about is kids dispaying strange poses - kids do that innocently anyway - I would be more concerned about the parents having molested the child if that is their attitude towards s*x. Icertainly wouldn't have them babysit for you!!!!

4. Stay well away - but send someone to check out their child is in a safe environment is my advice!

Answer 2

Kids pick up things from MTV etc (watch the girls in the videos dance etc) - doesn't have to be p**n. It's innocent, they (the kids) don't know what they are doing - it doesn't have the same meaning to them as does for us.

Answer 3

Tell the child, "Sally, here in this house, we don't do such poses." And make sure your own child knows that what Sally (or whatever her name is) is not acceptable in your family.

Answer 4

I am so sick and tired of these bogus questions. Either you are completely full of it because any sane parent once having full proof of a child being exposed to such filth would not allow their child contact w/said child in fear of molestation AND would have alerted the authorities or you are exaggerating to get sympathy. Grow up.

Answer 5

You or your child should not associate with people who have p**n in plain sight of visitors. These people sound like freaks.

Sorry to be so blunt.

Answer 6

Could she be trying to do a ballet move with the leg up in the air, and I know a lot of 3 yr olds that poke their bums out, bums are funny things to 3 yr olds.

If p**n is laying around the house and they tried to push it on you they are not the type of people I would want my child around period. Do not let her go to their house and if you feel strongly don't let her come to yours.

But I hardly think it is sexual at 3. I have had a lot of experience with kids and even older kids try to do dance moves or be the one who can put their leg behind their head, it has no sexual meaning until an adult puts it there.

If the books are laying around she could be trying to mimic them but at 3 to her it is not sexual, she would not even know what sexual is. Her parents are losers though, if you like p**n fine but don't leave it around for kids to see.

Answer 7

wow what a coincedence...i have a 3 yr old baby cousin who does stuff like that (she got it from watchin her parents have s*x). What we had to do was teach her that it was wrong. if you see your kid engaging in it with her just tell her that its wrong and maybe the other one wont do it anymore either. i think it up to the other parents to deal with their child if it doesnt work

Answer 8

I agree with Vicki A, and would also add that the more attention you give to the behavior, the more likely it is that you assign a meaning to it.

Answer 9

Woah.. Maybe you should tell her parents? Not in an accusing way but just say something like,, "look, i"ve noticed.." blah blah blah. And say your uncomfortable with your daughter around.. Unless the parents are complete dyfunctional,, then I dunno.. lol. But it might not even be the parents,, but its good to let them know I guess.

Answer 10

she is three. there are no inappropriate, sexual poses when you are THREE.and jumping to the conclusion that her parents must be watching p**n when she is in the room is absurd and extremely uncharitable. you sound like a very high strung worrisome person.