A classic potty training question that i still have no amswer for...?

Question

my 2 year old son is fully potty trained with peeing in the potty. but goin number 2 is a different story. he does not do it in the toilet and i cant figure out why. he is not scared of it because he has done it a couple times (2 or 3) and when he did he was so proud and clapping. whenever he goes in his underwear (which is once or twice a day) he acts all sad and dissapointed in himself. i try to reassure him cuz i dont wanna see him down on himself like that but wat is up and why cant he go in the potty?

Answer 1

My daughter had a similar problem.  The first time she made a poopy in the potty we did the cheering and clapping and let her flush it down but I was surprised by the look on her face afterward.  It turned out that she was somehow associating her poopy with a body part and felt that by flushing it down she was "loosing" something.   We just kept talking to her about how the body keeps making more poopy each day and that flushing it down the toilet was putting it where it was supposed to go and eventually it worked.  It is very frustrating, though.  I can't remember just how long it took to get her comfortable, but I think it was a few months.  This could possibly be the reason even though your son did seem happy when he did it a few times.  Maybe something just triggered in his mind to cause him to worry about flushing it down.  Children are funny about toilet stuff.  All 3 of mine had at least one issue with the toilet.  My oldest daughter was afraid of the automatic flushes in public restrooms and my son was afraid for a short time about toilets and sinks flooding the house after a laundry room sink was left on in our house and flooded the basement.  Anyway, I'm sure it won't be long before he is comfortable making it go in the potty.  Maybe role play with some action figures to see if he communicates something about what he is feeling. Good luck!

Answer 2

I think it's a boy thing.  I raised 3 daughters and they were all p**p trained before they were pee pee trained.

Now I'm a gramma, and my daughter has two boys.  Well, they were just like your guy...didn't seem to mind carry a load around.  They too were proud when they did it in the potty, but would get too busy playing to want to take time out to use the potty.  The older one would even go hide in a corner to do it sometimes rather than sit on the potty...what's that about??

Anyway, the good news is that my daughter just persisted and every time they used the potty she praised the dickens out of them,,,and eventually, still at a respectable age, they were trained.  Actually, the youngest wanted to go to "school" like his big brother, so she bribed him by signing him up for a few hours a week in a toddler program, and told him he had to use the potty before he could go...he just immediately miraculously was trained!

Answer 3

It just takes time....be patient ...you seem to be doing pretty good.  Sometimes they are just too busy and it is done before he can stop himself.  Just tell him next time to try to make it the potty.  My kids were close to 3 with the #2 issue..good luck

Answer 4

ask him every 10 or 15 minutes if he has to poo, or like after he eats. Always tell him good job if he does and watch him to see if acts differently when poos, so you can put him on the pot.

Hope this Helps

Answer 5

I'm so going through the same thing, and I like you don't understand why my son can pee but not p**p! He gets scared or something I don't quite know what the deal is, Like your son he has done it 3 or 4 times but always poops in his underwear, So Hopefully someone gives you a good answer! Just wanted to let you know your not the only one going through this! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 6

He will eventually get control.  You are doing the right thing by giving him positive reinforcement and not scolding him.  For my kids, potty training was about confidence and comfort.  I researched and found a very stable stool with sides for the toilet so my kids could hold on securely without ever touching the toilet with their hands.  http://www.amazon.com/Elite-Child-Corpor...

This made all the difference for them and they loved doing it on their own.  Using the toilet was so helpful and this stool was well worth it.  Hope this helps.

Answer 7

I think it is pretty common that this happens. My daughter did that, and when we finally got frustrated with cleaning the messy undies I had her run around without any. She got the picture and got herself on the potty to p**p. A couple of days later she was fully potty trained. I think this approach will only work with kids who have a problem with the mess going on to the floor. My daughter was horrified with making that kind of mess, so she taught herself as soon as she made the connection that no undies equalled p**p on the floor.

Answer 8

That really is the classic question. I'm not at that stage yet with my child, however I heard that slight bribery works with potty training. p**p in the potty = a few M&Ms!

Does he have a specific "p**p face"? Maybe try to catch him before he poops. Let him know that when he feels that way, he should run to the potty, or let you know so you can take him there.

It may take time, but he'll get there! Good luck!

Answer 9

There really is no answer to this question. Children almost always have a difficult time pooping in the potty. There are a lot of reasons why it happens: children don't want to stop playing and by the time they take a break to go it is too late OR they hold it for too long and become constipated and it's painful to pass. Does your son have signals so that you know when he has to p**p? Does he hid or crouch in corners? Try to keep an eye out for that type of behavior so that when he heads that way you can redirect him. Also, try to give him so privacy in the bathroom. Let him know you'll be right outside the door. As silly as it sounds, try to give up something to do on the potty to distract him...a children's book or magazine, an etch-a-sketch, someting that will make him forget what he's trying to do and relax him. Also, try to figure out what time he poops each day (children often have a schedule) and sit him on the toilet around that time. Don't be afraid to reward him when he poops in the potty...stickers, one or two skittles, etc. really go a long way!

Good luck!

Answer 10

Both of my boys were like that.

I just kept track of their schedules  and put them on the potty when I knew it was about time for number two.  After awhile, they got the hang of it.

Answer 11

Try telling him if he stinkeys in the potty he gets a sucker.  If you can catch him to get him on the potty and he goes in the potty act all excited and give him a sucker.  

* you can use any other special treats he don't get to often

It worked for me with my son.  Of course when he went in the underwear I would show him and tell him yucky!  GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 12

here are a few links that might help you out: http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/Pot...

http://www.babyworld.co.uk/information/b...

Hope i helped!