A co worker lashed out at me and has 8 years sinority over me. what should i do?

Question

i work in a law firm now. my previous job, i had an excellent relationship with my boss and co workers. i came here and myt life is miserable. i keep trying to connect with my bosses and co workers and they just dont seem to like me. they make you feel very uncomfortable and intimidated. i ask them to go out to lunch (co workers) and they never want to go out. friday, everyone was joking around about a shirt my boss got from a client. we wre all laughing. one of my co workers happens to wear shirts similar to the one my boss got. i laughed and said that looks like something you would wear. i think he dresses very nice and the shrit (in my opinion was very nice) he started screaming, cursing and yelling at me. he was insulted and everyone else said the shirt was ugly. i was trying to join in with everyone and he ruined it for me by yelling and using foul language. i want to leave this place but the market is bad. ive been posting resumes all over. i always had a good relationship w/everyone i worked with. whats their problems? i try my best and no one acknowledges it. i try to fit in and they make it hard for me what are their problems? One other thing about this man, hes been there for 8 years and one of the partners have a problem w/ him because hes always late and asks me to call and ask where he is. my boss does have an attitude towards me but is this one advantage over me? ive only been there for 4 months but i would like to appear a "better worker" over these people. mayble their jealous? how can I benefit from this until i get another job? i could care less about these peopel because they care less about me and Im sad because i never felt this way in any job. i always have been on good terms w.bosses and co workers and still stay in touch w/them since i am not working there. i hate these people and this is not like me at all.

Answer 1

You need to go back to school.

Answer 2

Keep your mouth shut. You seem like you probably say too much around these people. It's no that they don't like you, its that they are just not good people and do not trust why you act the way you act.

The guy with the 8 years has that kind of time for a reason, because he is him. Do not leave them yet, do not worry, and by NO MEANS do not betray him or anyone else.

You are fine, just try to deal with not making a connection. If people see you as a mystery, or that your too good for them, they will talk to you on their own.

A buddy of mine had this kind of beef, and just bought a Rolex, redid his hair and clothing style and went silent. Acted like he was a good worker, but that the job was a job, and that he didn't need it.

Eventually people wanted to know his secret, and gave in. Revealing very bad things about themselves and establishing trust with everyone.

You can do it, don't be so hard on yourself.