I am far away from my friends and family and anyone who would throw a traditional baby shower for me. My husband's sister & sister-in-law have offered to throw a shower and thought (as I do as well) that my husband should be included (I would want him included in my home town as well and he is very "secure" in his masculinity).
Thing is they sounded all "relieved" when I said "of course, let's go co-ed/jack and jill or whatever" and then they proceeded to tell me that they were thinking of doing a cookout so the guys don't feel awkward.
Okay, I can handle cookouts for 4th of July and Labor Day but for a baby shower?? Especially considering that this is the only one I will have? I tried to get out of it by saying that they should throw a "congrats" party for my husband when the baby is born but they said "no, it has to be about you too". But I am thinking "if it is about me why a cookout? I don't even like cookouts". BTW: Nobody ever does anything that I like to do when we get together. It is always what other people like to do.
Anyhow, does anyone else feel kind of yucky about a cookout baby shower? Maybe it is my age - I am 37 years old - but cookout and baby shower are not two concepts I would personally ever want paired. My stepmother agreed - she is also older.
I am personally offended by the idea yet want to politely get out of being the guest of honor at a party where only the "men" are being considered. My husband doesn't really want a cookout either - funny thing is I'm not really that "girly" and he isn't too "manly man" and we both just like appetizers and good music - things like that. We even thought - hey a cool brunch would be unisex without being - well, a "cookout".
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