A few questions about first time s*x...?

Question

what if i don't use a towel and i get blood on the sheets, is there an easy way to clean it up?

what should i have my boyfriend do so it won't hurt me so much? he already told me he would go slow and be gentle. and i know he will. but he is a little on the big side.

what do i do after we finish? just lay there? etc..

girls- are there any tips you can give me? or things i should know?

Answer 1

PLEASE just wait to do this.  No need to rush.

Answer 2

There is a possibility that you won't bleed (not all girls do) but in the case that you do bleed, keep a bottle of cold water handy and perhaps one of those brand named spot removers.  These two are the best way to clean blood.

As for the pain, your boyfriend can't do any more than he promises.  But you can try masturbating to stretch your v****a,  It will hurt, but you'd be the one responsible so it wouldn't hurt as much as someone else who doesn't know.  He could also apply lube so that his p***s may slip in easier, but it can just as easily slip off and out.

And as always, wear a condom

Answer 3

you have to be relaxed.. else you tensin up will make it harder

Answer 4

okay first of all its gonna hurt like h**l.

use lube and a condom.

Answer 5

just relax it will be fine. u probly wont get blood on the sheets, if u do h**l no y so its not like h**l be grossed out by it or anything. h**l probly laugh about it. blood comes off of fabric easity with a little cold water and hydrogen peroxide.he understands that its ur first time. my first time i was shaking but when it accually happend i was fine it just comes naturally. if u r on top it hurts MUCH less. dont go on bottom trust me. and its rly awkward after u finish. h**l probly go to the br and take off his condom and stuff. eww.... so just lay there i guess. theres nothing else u can do. dont moan the first time. u probly wont have an o****m anyway. and leave ur bra on if u feel more comfortable but he will probly take it off.  it will probly take him a while to get it in cuz ull be tight. it will be extremely awkward, but just relax all ur muscles it will make it a little easier and ur vag might be sore for a couple of days so take it easy after. and make sure u have blankets over u guys its just better. ur gunna be just fine. have fun! :)

Answer 6

well you have ot be really wet

jsut going slow doesn't always work

you have to be ready first

when i mean ready i mean have him or yourself finger you until you are really wet then use a condom

i would suggest a towel because you are going to need one

Answer 7

u do it and it won't hurt...i broke my hymen  

Answer 8

Blood will seep down through the sheets so use towels and throw them out afterwards. After you guys finish just cuddle or sleep together if you can.

Answer 9

try it with him on top so he can control how much he goes in

wash them right away

when you done which might be quickly if it hurts just cuddle alk or just lay there and enjoy what just happened

Answer 10

if you get blood on the sheets or anything, you can always use peroide. It takes blood out of anything.

For your boyfriend: Use lots of lubrication.

After, just cuddle or talk, whatever feels comfortable and right.

*If your not ready for s*x, you should wait. You should really love the person and plan on being with them forever.  

Answer 11

remember not to get pregnancy ?  use the protection ?   and yes , go very slow to have s*x ?  it,ll get hurt the next day ?  i suggest you take the ky liquid for the first intercourse ?   do not do it while dry intercourse ?  that,s the worse thing to do ?   after you both done , go take a shower and clean up the bed ?  

Answer 12

Yes, he should go slow. Blood can wash out of sheets.

You should bask in the afterglow, then both take a shower and clean each other up

Answer 13

it might not hurt that bad. id recommend you putting a towel down to make sure.

Answer 14

take the pain :)

Answer 15

If you think you are ready for s*x, then you should be ready to take the pain as well. When you are ready for something, there aren't any doubt or regrets. And it sounds like you got lots so you should probably rethink your actions. Remember, each choice you make have its consequences and you and only you have to pay them.

Answer 16

Rubbing ice on the blood should help it come up. Try different positions with him, and when you are done, just clean up.  

Answer 17

Just relax and take it slow!

Answer 18

if you have white sheets then you can remove the blood with bleach. definitely use lube so he can get in much easier. some people just naturally lay there after doing the deed. it depends on the people because there are people who like to cuddle.go straight to the bathroom or just change right away. so it truly does depend.

Answer 19

Just make sure you pee when you're done.

That always helps.

Answer 20

Blood comes out with an immediate wash in cold water. I apply spray and wash before hand and then wash it in cold. If it isn't out, don't dry it. Wash it again.

Lubricate with vaseline and make sure he just doesn't go for it immediately. Work up to penetration if you know what I mean. Also a pillow under hips might help.

Do what comes naturally afterward. If you are boyfriend and girlfriend the time afterward should be intimate.

If it is your first time, it might not be amazing because of pressure in having s*x the first time or because of the simple of the physical issue.

Your boyfriend should take you and your pleasure into consideration every time. If he doesn't, its a red flag.

Good luck.

Answer 21

The first time can be painful when the hymen breaks upon penetration. There can also be some blood. Not all girls bleed and not all have pain. I never bled but there was a lot of pain.   Place a small towel under you.  If you immediately rinse the blood spots in cold water, they should come out.

Use protection.

For some, the first few times might make you feel sore, as the v****a has been an unused muscle or even hurt if you aren't properly lubricated, or if the guy is in a hurry, doesn't arouse you and your body isn't ready.

Relaxing, foreplay, (oral s*x, more foreplay – touching, kissing, etc) being fully aroused or better yet, you having an o****m FIRST or using a lubricant like KY-Jelly or Astro-Glide can help.

After s*x, it's up to you want you do.  Cuddle, talk, get up and go pee, go to sleep. Whatever.

Answer 22

OKAY IF U DONT KNOW HOW TO CLEAN BLOOD OFF OF SHEETS THEN YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG TO BE HAVING s*x.

Answer 23

First off, use protection (but you probably already know that).

Secondly, make sure that you have thought long and hard about this decision. Can you handle the possible implications of s*x, like pregnancy and STDS (yes, you can still become pregnant or get an STD even when you use protection)?

Now, to your questions.

You can get the blood out of the sheets if you use a stain remover and then wash the sheets in cold water. Try to do it as soon as possible afterwards. However, the best idea is to use a towel.

Also, it will be much easier on you if you use some type of lubrication (like K-Y jelly). It will also be easier if you're boyfriend pleasures you first, before intercourse. Once again, if you're embarrassed to buy lubricant, then maybe you aren't ready for s*x.

As for what to do afterwards, do the standard cuddle and relax.

Based on your questions, I highly recommend that you seriously think about whether you're ready to have s*x. Also, if you're under the age of 18, I implore you to at least wait until you get to college and find someone you truly care about!!!! Your virginity is something you can never get back, kinda of like getting a tattoo. Once it's done, it's done.

Do yourself a favor and wait a while, if you still want to have s*x with him a year from now, then try it out.

Answer 24

first of all how old are you? second of all don't do it! im just kidding. You will make your own choices but really think about it first. If you decide to go ahead definitely use protection! not to get graphic but you should have him use a few fingers first to help expand and not just jam it in. i know it will be difficult but do your best to RELAX when u tense up your muscles tighten and that will make it more difficult to get it in therefore more painful. i would try normal missionary s*x first and have him very slowly insert his p***s a bit at a time. once he is inside of you have him just sit still for a minute or so so you can get used to the feeling. like u said after that slow and gentle. do not expect to enjoy it the first time but it will get better! do not try having s*x right after the first time either give your self time to heal cause there may be some tearing. I wouldnt expect to much bleeding if he goes slow, most people don't show any noticeable bleeding. If you feel uncomfortable about it put down the towel, if you dont and there is a small amount of blood on the sheets just put them in the washer right after. Afterwards you can do whatever you want cuddle cry laugh smile watch tv eat ice cream whatever you feel comfortable with. if at any point you feel uncomfortable tell him to stop and he better! good luck

Answer 25

·Don't worry about it hurting, it's not that bad.

Relax, the more tense you are the more it will hurt but if you relax and get into it. Make sure your guy gives you lots of stimulation because the foreplay causes your body to lubricate the appropriate area and loosens the muscles. Very important!!  In fact if he gives you an o****m before penetration it will cause your v****a to lengthen.

If you don't already know, find out where you clitoris is and make sure your guy knows where it is too. It is the key to your o****m, I don't mean that penetration isn't great but if he stimulates your clitoris first if will go a long way to making it better for you both. If he uses his fingers the best thing if for him to lubricate one or two first either with KY or he can slide one or two inside you to pick up some of your natural lubrication, then he can start gently rubbing you.  At first he shouldn’t rub right on your clitoris, just rub around it and as you become more stimulated go back and try gently touching it again.  Experiment and see what feels best to you.  Be sure to keep everything lubricated, dry isn't comfortable at all.



Oral is also a great way for him to do this.  His saliva is plenty of lubrication.  If he starts with just the tip of his tounge, running it around your C**t before actually flicking and l*****g your C**t.  After awhile he could start using the flat of his tounge to run across the whole area alternatly with the tip of his tounge.  Humming while doing this adds a whole vibration effect that is always amazing in oral s*x.

When it's over you lay for a couple of minutes trying to recover.  Hug and kiss a bit, snuggle.  

Here are a couple of safe sites for you to read about your lady parts.

http://health.discovery.com/centers/s*x/...

http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2005/if-...

This is a good picture cause you can click on different parts to see what they are and compare them to what you see on yourself.  

http://www.teenwire.com/interactive/diag...

Answer 26

just do it on top of a dark comporter, then you wont see the blood, and it will wash out.

there not much you can do about the not hurting part. i jsut saying now, i will hurt to go in, and you will wince, but let him force it in, the pain will go away. also use lubricant, then it will just slide in.

after you finish, well thats kinda depends on how you are, i know me and my boyfriend lay the cuddling and talking, then go make some food, and then go to sleep.