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Is the original topic, OK here smy dilemma i am 20 years old and like most 20 year old men i want to date i want to meet people i want to be sexually active etc..... but i have to be so discreet, its like why bother, but the thing is i love my job i love where im stationed i like my coworkers, i couldnt be happier and when i look 20 years down the road i wanted to be in love with SOMEONE and be a Sgt Maj, butt with the way things are its like i have to give up one dream or the other, and i honestly dont know so im just asking for adivce. Im aware of D.A.D.T. and i knew when i signed up what it meant, but people always ask, whats your girlfriends name, are you gonna get married, etc. and the thing is it eats me inside, lying and putting up a front to the point where i got drunk, and came out to my roomate(he was supportive) but regardless. My dream is to be a Marine but in the long run not sure it will work out...................... Any input, im just venting.

Answer 1

You only have two options.....

Get out of the service

Become a good liar.....You can always claim your fiance is "back home"......You love her very much and do not cheat on her.....You will be married when you complete your current service.....she does not like military life and can not leave home because of an invalid mother..... etc

Keep your lies simple.....close to the truth without embellishment.....

NEVER come out to anyone..... today's supportive friend is tomorrows enemy...... I have known several g*y military men...they were often excellent servicemen / women.....but ..several had their careers cut short.... this is an unforgiving game

Answer 2

I know more than one person who is carrying on a same s*x relationship while serving active duty..including one Submariner.  

it can be done.