A form of punishment you are not proud of and regret?

Question

We were all sitting on the bed the other night and my son laid over into the sheets and took a chunk out of my leg- seriously, it is red, swollen, and bled. It hurt so bad. My first instict was to push away from whatever was hurting me so, I pushed my son away. I didn't push that hard, but he went backwards onto the bed. He could tell I was flustered and that is why he cried. I already felt guilty about pushing him away from me, but then my husband started in on me saying I can't treat him like that, etc. I know I shouldn't have,but don't we all make mistakes? Or was this action that completely out of line that I should be berrated? Have you ever done something like this that you regret?

Answer 1

everyone does this lol and i think everyone feels bad abt it later too, i know i have, let me think here...i did somehing the other day and i cant remember what it was my son did something to me and i went to spank him and he moved real quick and i hit his chest, :( boy was he mad of course i told him if he would have listened in the first place i wouldnt have tried to spank him and missed lol made me feel horrible kids have a way of doing that to you dont they? lol  he just turned four by the way and i swear to god he is still going through the terrible twos  lmao  dont beat  ur self up it happens to the best of us mommies

Answer 2

Overall, the behavior that I'd like to break myself of doing altogether is using guilt trips to make a point.   It is definitely not behavior that I'd like my kids to model or use in their lives & I feel awful when I see them using it with each other & their friends, knowing that they learned it from me.  

So, first, I've got to be more aware of it myself.  Then, I've got to learn how to communicate my feelings in a more appropriate & respectful way.  Then, I've got to make sure my kids are aware of the struggle & change that I'm trying to make to myself, so that they can unlearn the habits as well.

I always regret when I lose my temper & yell with the kids.  It is most definitely happening less & less these days, though.  I always apologize, though, for losing my temper & not speaking respectfully & calmly to them.  I hope that helps them learn how to apologize for their own choices when they know  they've made a bad choice.

You are only human.  And, pushing someone away who's hurting you is an instinct.  Apologizing & comforting someone who you hurt is the best thing to do when you've reacted like that either by accident, on purpose or because you couldn't help it.  We all make mistakes.  All we can do is learn from them & try to fix them.

Answer 3

Your husband shouldn't berrate you over child management in front of the child.

Answer 4

you were not wrong at all.  all parents go though this.  my son bit me on the inside of my thigh once i screamed and pushed him off of me.  he cried and cried.  i felt so bad but it's a reaction.  not your falt.  you didn't hit him.  try not to be to mad at your husband either, he's just being protective which is a good thing.

Answer 5

Your better then me, If i felt that I would of kicked whatever was hurting me.  You were not out of line.  Its a reaction that almost everyone has.