A friend I deleted from my friends list on facebook has messaged me to ask why?

Question

I made friends with this girl at my old work, however I left that job about 3 years ago. We've kept in contact and seen each other very sporadically, only say 10 times since I left. However just recently she'd been annoying me quite a bit, for example she would sometimes ring me up on a Saturday night at 7.30 to see if I wanted to do anything (I think this is rude and I felt like she was just using me). Also she was constantly boasting in her status updates about her social life, like how she was so busy going to parties and on holidays and everything, it just pissed me off, I thought she was a bit of a t**t to be honest. I tried to be a good friend to her, but I got the feeling I was very much a 'c' list friend of hers. A few weeks ago I wrote a message on her wall, and she didn't reply. Then I sent her a message, just a friendly 'hi, how's it going', and again she didn't reply. I left it about a week and still hadn't heard anything, so I got a bit pissed off and just deleted her from my list. I kind of thought she wouldn't even notice anyway.

So just this afternoon she messages me saying, ''Hi, have you deleted me from your friends list? I hope I haven't done anything to offend you xx"

What do I do?

Answer 1

tell her the truth, she's selfish, self absorbed and conceited... Tell her you dont appreciate being ignored and that you have many good friends.

Answer 2

How would you feel if you were the girl?

Answer 3

Give your friend it straight.

Answer 4

Tell her that you took offence to the delay in her responses . I am sure she will improve if she values the friendship. She might have had a valid reason for doing so.

Answer 5

Clearly she was just trying to get your attention by not replying for a week. maybe she was busy. However, if she wants to change her status updates that is just not for you to see its for everyone on her freinds list.

Her buisness is her buisness, other than that if you feel she has done something then tell her.  

Answer 6

If you really don't like her then don't worry about it. However, I think that you might have been jealous of her and all of the things that she was doing. So her status said that she was having a good time. Why can't you just be happy for her? Why do you have to make it your problem. You had an opportunity to be apart of her plans considering she called you up and asked you what you were doing. And so she didn't respond to your facebook comments maybe she doesn't go on facebook often - not everyone does. Seems to me you over-reacted. Anyway, it's too late to backtrack. Be straight with her. You have nothing to lose since you already decided to distance yourself from her.

Answer 7

yeah some of my friends have deleted me, friends ha thats a good un, people someone ive known 14yrs deleted me for no reason has given me no reason and ignores me for no reason, a lass at uni added me then deleted me and ignores me personally i feel used as shell only talk if she doesnt see anyone else also when i got an umbrella i always hold it over a lass

anyway as for your question just explain you feel used and had no replies and you dont feel content in being a number to boast her popularity

Answer 8

Either tell her or ignore her those are your two choices.

Answer 9

i would tell her how i felt because she didn't think she was doing anything wrong and explain the reason why you did it in the first place and go out and talk face to face and if you still feel like she is taking advantage on you stop talking to her

Answer 10

Well if you dont like her, dont talk to her. Might sound harsh but the more you think about it, the more pain you'll cause for yourself and her. Just ignore her and move on

Answer 11

What do you do - you stop being so petty and jealous of her - because this is what the reality of your question come statement come rant is.

She contacted you to ask you to go out and you react like a spoilt little brat child.

Grow up and apologise to her and get your head out of your butt

Answer 12

Deleting someone over something like this is a little childish.  She may have been on holiday, or busy or anything.  Sometimes we have to cut people a bit of slack.  I have friends I haven't seen for five years, then when we meet up, it's as though we met yesterday.  Maybe your question shows that you have a little way to go in undertanding friendships.

If you want to give her a second chance, just explain how you felt when you didn't get a response and on being a last minute call-out.

Be kind yourself - but also your friends - whether they're good friends, work colleagues or acquaintances - that's what's so good about FB - you can be friends with lots of people.  Take care and hopefully you can resolve things.

Answer 13

What you should do is to be honest with her and tell her the truth. From reading your story about the situation,  I think that you may be jealous of her because of her social status. Keep in mind that people don't check their facebook accounts often.  You had an opportunity to be a a part of her life and you chose not to. She has just as much right to hang out with her friends as you do. All you can do is be honest-that's it.