A girlfriends forgivness?

Question

hey everyone, i need some help. tonight my girlfriend told me she thought she would have to sleep with me to keep me interested in her, which couldnt be further fromthe truth, she had been in relationships before and she thought the same thing then, but her last boyfriend is someone ive never met but i truly hate him. (another story) after i reassured her she did not have to think that, she looked at me and said she had never met someone who thought that way, it hurt me to think she thought like that about me. but only 15 minutes later she was so overwhelmed by what i said, we started getting, well you know, we caught ourselves before it was to late but we still had did enough to feel terrible about it, especially after the things i reassured her of. we did enuogh that she freaked out as did i. i apologized over and over and im ashamed to admit this but i even cried because i knew she was hurt, i made her feel exactly what she didnt want to. when she saw the sincerity in my eyes she forgave me, but can anyone give me some kind of clue to help me understand if she truly meant it if nyone could give me any info about it i would greatly appreciate more than i could ever tell anyone? i want to believe she meant it but i dont think i deserved it

Answer 1

agreed, you dont' have to apologise, aint' your fault mate.

She's got her own issues and I srlsy reckno you should move on.

Usually other girls wouldn't really react that way how she did.

Answer 2

dump her. She has issue's to sort out. From what I read you have nothing to apologize about.

      I guess you could stay if you like walking on egg shells but if she is constantly talking about her ex's and your being a sap and listening to her and saying "those evil guys" your being played. She is just using you as a "rebound guy".

        And chances are it will end poorly for you.

   When it comes to damaged goods :return to sender.

Answer 3

It's absolutely normal for a close moment like the one you shared to lead to some sexual expression.  In fact, that's s*x as an expression of love, and it's very powerful.  The difficulty was that you also needed to express you love for her by *not* having s*x with her.  And you managed that too, by stopping in time.  I think you were in a very complex situation and you handled it very well under the circumstances.

I think she really did mean it.  I think she recognised that she wanted to express love for you in a sexual way, but she felt conflicted about it.  And I think she recognised that you stopped before it went to far.  And also that you were sincere in your apology.

I think she does forgive you.  If you talk to her again about the situation, maybe you could explain that it was difficult to be sure of the best thing to do.  You had the impression that she wanted to make love, but you also thought that perhaps she didn't want to make love.  And then gently let her know that it will be her decision if you become intimate like that again, and you won't put any pressure on her.  

Good luck!

  

Answer 4

Hey, Jared, don't stress out!!  Your gf forgave you, so move on.  Just let it go and get on with enjoying life together.