A good book for sudden loss and grieving?

Question

i lost my husband of 27yrs..... 3yrs ago.... to a sudden tragic death... he was pronounced by the time i arrived at the hospital.....

since i have remarried... which i never thought i would do.... i think i was trying too hard to go on with my life... and now, so many times i feel like it all comes back on me.. just as painful as when i heard the news the first time..... i feel like i'm on a roller-coaster most of the time... the pain really doesn't ease like they say (it will get easier with time) you just learn to cope and deal with it..... so.................

does the grieving process ever get easier?

are there any good books to help through such a sudden and unexpected loss?

i don't believe in taking meds so i don't want to see a dr so they can tell me i'm depressed or put me on some med..

Answer 1

Everybody Hurts

It's a New Zealand book by Stephen... someone. Forget his last name. Google it. His son took his own life.

Yes, it DOES get easier BUT not the way the media thinks. Even Elizabeth Kubler-Ross's 7 steps of grief only touched the surface. It's on-going; the 'hole' will always be there, just like light and dark will always be there. And that's okay. There are up days and down days and the key is not to beat yourself up on a downer, but just ALLOW it.

Big ups to you for not wanting to medicate/suppress/repress anything.