A guy I used to date is depressed... ?

Question

We had a very troubled relationship because he was clingy and never seemed to understand when I didn't want to be with him anymore. I literally had to tell him in these words, " I DON'T LIKE YOU ANYMORE" for him to understand that I wanted to break up. I felt so bad for being mean to him, but I didn't know what else to do.

Now, his gf that he had after me broke up with him and he's threatening on and off to kill himself. What do I do? I want to help him but I'm afraid he'll become attached to me again... And then I'll feel like I have to stay with him! I can't do that again. What do I do?

Answer 1

Do whatever you can to get him to go to counseling.    

Answer 2

When someone is 'hurting' the first thing one does or 'should' do is put yourself in that person's position. What if it were you? What if it was YOU hurting? Would you want someone to treat you as Sasha stated...ignore them?

No. First you would want someone to show you compassion. It costs nothing to show human compassion. Second, this person has just made a statement regarding he may hurt himself. You need to get someone else involved here: Parents, counselors, mutual friends, member of the clergy, someone.

You never want to leave a person feeling destitute and hopeless. There are way too many resources available to find help. I believe the last thing you want to see is this person commit suicide or even attempt it. That would certainly be more devastating. Don't you agree?

Finally, talk with this person. Really talk to him. Find out what's going on inside. Bring a neutral person into the circle that will be a buffer for the two of you so he can't make you his anchor. You and the third person will be the catalyst to help him get to the right people that can and will help him through this time. And guess what?

A year form now, he'll thank you for being a 'true' friend when the chips were down. That's what he needs...Simply, a friend.

Answer 3

Lose contact. He's clingy and he wants attention. Don't give him the satisfaction of going back to him. If he persists suggest he go see a counsellor. That's all I can suggest.

Answer 4

Say that ur sorry and then tell him if you guys can be just friends

Answer 5

nothing he's not your problem anymore