A little advice needed?

Question

To the point, I,m a man who makes good money,faithful to my spouse,loves s*x( with the spouse) loves our kids,but my spouse is just a fly off the handle,B@#&H who acts like a spoiled little brat when she dont get her way.She hates our older teenagers and is always looking to kick them out for any reason she thinks of.ya cant talk to her about it either,(shes never wrong,and theres nothing wrong with her either)she says they stress her out all the time,there actually pretty good kids she just has such high standards for them all the time! cant talk to her cause remember theres nothing wrong. There are more and more times I just wanna leave her but just cant get the balls to do it,wanna do it but dont wanna leave the 10 year old to put up with all her bitchin' .Then when I start the I gotta leave process I have panic attacks,anxiety and go right back to forget about tellin her squat. We do have good times dont get me wrong 17 yrs marriage is good but what a b#$%h .An suggestions...a man with no B@#*S

Answer 1

Yall need a vacation.  You and your wife need to go away for a few days away from the family.  Reconnect.  Go out and go to a spa, go out for drinks one night, go to the beach and really have a good time.  My husband spoils me and I act like a brat too, but I love him.  He will be honest with me and tell me to my face, but really when we get down to it, I may feel like I m doing a a lot to get my way and get upset when I do not.  Is it really that crucial?  Of course your wife will have high standards for your children, but they are your kids too.  She cant make all the rules.  Have some kind of agreement.

If you want, take a vacation by yourself or with a couple of friends.  Let your wife "miss" you.  Unwind.  Your wife really does love you bc your always there and she may be taking you for granted.  Ever think about that.  Talk to your kids. TALK TO THEM!  Your relationship with your wife can affect them.  Make sure they know she really does love them.  Be the comforting parent in this case.  Marriage is supposed to be forever, so don't just give up, make an effort.  If things do not work out then you know you were strong and tried your best.  Sometimes it sucks being the adult in a situation, but whenever you go through hard times when it comes to pass, your blessing is so much greater.

Answer 2

Maybe she is bipolar.  Take the ten year old with you and leave her.  talk to a counselor, alone if she won't go to counseling with you, you will see what you have to do to get your balls back, and see what to do about this relationship.

Answer 3

Sounds like she's verbally abusive to you and the kids. Sounds like my H. Sounds a little like narcissistic personality disorder.

Answer 4

You need to be very careful and think this through. Try to get her some help, there are ways. Whatever you do understand things before you do them. Oh and do not leave the house or the 10 yr old no matter what. If she makes it so legally you have to leave, take all the children with you then or asap. When you go to court you do not want her saying you abandoned her. This will hit you hard. Try to work it out.

http://www.dadsofmichigan.org/

http://fathersrights.org/

Can give you tons of info to think over.

Answer 5

counseling bud, counseling

Answer 6

UR LIFE SUCKS...U JUST ME FEEL BETTER.THANX

Answer 7

When I was a teenager I gave my mom a lot of grief and she just couldn't handle it. So my dad suggested that she take an hour out of every evening while I was still up to do something for her. She usually went and soaked in the tub with a book uninterupted. I don't think your wife hates your children, I think she may be overwhelmed and a little tired by the time the end of the day is near.  

Answer 8

She needs a wake up call man. Pack your bags, hand her a list of issues why you are leaving and take off for a couple of days. Tell her you want to keep the marriage going but you are very frustrated with her attitude. You have nothing to loose unless she is having an affair and just trying to get you to leave and if that is the case you need to get it out in the open sooner rather than later. Good luck buddy.