A little advice plzzzz?

Question

okay well i have a best guy friend and a best girl friend. well they weren't going out but had s*x and she ended up pregnant.....they are 14...so am i but do i get upset, and ask a million questions or congratulate them on messing up their lives?

Answer 1

It's rational to get upset, but more things are probably on in their mind right now. Like the likelihood of keeping the child (which is close to never because remember, you and they have four more years left to become an adult). Don't get in the middle of it, but know your emotional limits.

Next time to the girl who didn't, use protection, eh? It seems, more and more that spay and neutering would work much better on (animalistic, unthinking) children these days.. s*x is a serious act. You should at least think before you do it.

Answer 2

congratulate them on Fcukin up  

Answer 3

both, angry first then congratulate them after the thing is born

Answer 4

ask a million questions...that is what i would do.

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Answer 5

just dont get involved and dont end up like them

Answer 6

well I'm 15 and if that was my situation

i would make your friend that is prago

feel good about herself trust me she would need it.

and for the guy just be there for him too but don't ever tell them how much they screwed up their lives you never no they could have a great life together..

Answer 7

You do not need to get involved. You do not need to be the "sidekick" of the girl who is pregnant and a guy who is a "to-be father". Give her some time. Let her know that you are there to talk to her, but there is no need to get into these two teen's business. Tell your parents. I know you probably don't want to, but it is the right thing to do. Your friends need to tell their parents, too. I admit, this will be hard. But don't worry, if she tells her parents, they will help her. This is a serious subject, if you need any more help, I suggest a school counselor. If you don't feel comfortable telling the counselor who it is, keep it to yourself, just say, person a and person b had s*x and person a is pregnant.

It will be hard, but it is really none of your business that you friend got pregnant. The child is her responsibility. She is going to need a friend, and you can talk to her about it, but don't make her believe that her action was OK.

I hope that helps.

Answer 8

nope i don't think you should get upset or congratulate them on messing up their lives, because after all  they are your friends , if their your best friends then especially the girl is gonna need you now as a friend sooo i think u should just explain that you not exactly happy with the situation but your gonna be there for them both , thats what i would do if i was in this situation  

Answer 9

Don't do anything to ruin your friendship. At that age, they will need a big support system, and because you are their best friend, you are part of their support system. Congratulate them. Not on messing up their lives, but the fact that they are bringing a new life into the world. Why would you ask a million questions? What do you want to know? Remember, now is when they need you the most!!

Answer 10

ermm i dunno... is she gonna have an abortion?

i'm 14 too. If 1 of my friends got pregnant i guess it'd be hard.

you dont want to lie and say you're happy for them, but you don't want to tell them the truth, like i think your ruining your life.

i'd probably ask lots of questions. Do everything you can to support them both. and don't judge them. they'll get enough of that from everyone else, they don't need their best friend judging them.

Answer 11

Just be a friend and be there for them to talk to. Don't judge them because they're probably having a million other problems to worry about

Answer 12

be a friend and see how they are reacting to this first as this is more about them then you. if you feel them out to be happy about it then congratulate if you see them down just be cool and be there if you can for what you can.

Answer 13

Yes, they have ruined their lives. Have they never heard of birth control?  What a couple of idiots!  The BEST & ONLY thing they can do is give the poor child up for adoption so it has a chance at a happy, productive life. It's obvious these 2 idiots care NOTHING about the child!  Jeez, what's the matter with our youth!!! (Well not all youth)  But these two MAKE ME SICK!!!!

Answer 14

If they are your friends, then they need your support now than ever.  Making them feel bad won't help.  Be there for them.  It's difficult to keep your opinions to yourself, but it will be worth it in the long run.  

Answer 15

talk to her about it. the important thing is that u need to be with her through this situation. she needs help the most. it depends how she feels about it. if shes happy, be happy for her. if shes sad, try to be realy nice to her and help her out. good luck

Answer 16

I think that you shouldn't be in the middle of the pregnancy even though they are ur best friends. i honestly dont have experience in this but if it happened to me then i would take a step back and of course they are gonna talk to u about the whole thing but let them decide everything they are gonna do with the baby.  

Answer 17

d**n that's deep um well i dnt know what u should do but i would tell  you keep being friends but stay out of it its their mistake not yours

Answer 18

be there for her, whatever her decision is, but don't give your personal opinion because a situation like that is very touchy and personal and could be translated in a very wrong/different way

Answer 19

that sucks hardcore

Answer 20

watch The secret life of the american teenager. but go to ABC family and watch the first episode til the latest episode and i hope it helps.

BUT THEY R YOUNG!!!!!!!!

Answer 21

omg thats sooooo young! well how do you feel about what happened? if your not happy for them, dont lie- i wouldnt be happy for them AT ALL if it were me.

its so sad:(