A male friend found this email between his fiance and another girl. Should he still marry her?

Question

"I’m ok yeah. I’ve just been a bit confused after the weekend. I really enjoyed myself (a bit too much I !!) and I went home feeling like c**p as I felt bad for doing that to him and I didn’t want to be leaving you either. I spent the next few days missing you which annoyed me as I really didn’t want to feel like that. Then yesterday when I saw you, I wanted you but was too scared/embarrassed to say anything. You know how I’ve always wanted the 2.4 children, have a house and maybe get married one day. I’ve wanted all of that more than anything for years on end. As you know, I’ve never been the ‘career minded’ girl and I’ve always wanted the guy to look out and provide for me/us and this kind of relationship isn’t what I had in mind. And yes, I know it wasn’t what you had in mind either and that we can’t help how we feel but that is how I see my future. So you see, I could never have you as it isn’t what I want and that is why I would like him/anyone else to be like you"

Answer 1

He "banned" her? How lame. Dude should get his engagement ring back, though. Probably should talk with her, too.

Answer 2

I would confront her about it. It'd give her an ultimatum... leave that other woman or I won't marry you. If he is that important to her and she really wants that ideal married life, she'll leave the other woman. Maybe premarital counseling.  

Answer 3

His fiance is obviously confused.  If he has already "banned" her from seeing this girl, I can't believe that he still proposed to her and is intending on marrying her.  This is not the way to start a marriage and personally, I think that this will not last and cost a lot of money, time and heartache.

Good luck to your friend, he has a difficult decision to make.

Answer 4

absolutely not...

she doent e1 want 2 b wid him it seems...

tel him 2 leave her...the sooner the better...

Answer 5

I think that he needs to be asking his fiance.  If he's got any issues of not being able to trust her than his answer is slapping him in the face, so to speak.  Trust is very important in a relationship, and it sounds to me that that is not the case here in this situation.  You can't change the spots on the back of the dog no matter how hard you try.  His answer is right in front of him. Unless he wants to always share his fiance with another woman, my suggestion is runnnnnnnnnnnn.....like ****.  Unless he thinks that he can tolerate this type of marriage. If she's already lying to him about this than what else is she lying to him about.

Answer 6

No they shouldn't. Whether she has feelings for a man or a woman... she is not feeling them toward him.

Answer 7

"Banning" her from seeing this girl won't fix the underlying problem, which is that this girl is g*y, and can't admit it to herself. Someday she will admit it, and end their marriage. Might not be for several years, but she won't be able to deny her true feelings forever. No matter how much he loves her, he needs to end it.

Answer 8

He needs to talk to her! I don't think they should get married, because its obvious not what she really wants or needs deep down. I think perhaps she's trying to please society and would also like to be "taken care of".  He really needs to reconsider this marriage.

Answer 9

cheating is cheating, so no!

Answer 10

His fiancee & not just a girlfriend?  A girlfriend would be bad enough.

His fiance agreed to marry him; she is already being unfaithful.

It's his choice, but I would end this releaionship.  He is doomed to a lifetime of hurt.  He deserves better.

Answer 11

How can you marry someone when in your heart you know that they want to be with someone else? That he will not have her fully? I couldn't do that. He has to talk to her about this before they get married. Other wise they have children and one day she'll say I'm leaving you to be with this person, thanks for the kids,