A man offered to help me with my heavy luggage, should I accept?

Question

I refused. was it wrong?

It's not that I don't need the help, its just that they were heavy and didn't want him to get hurt or something

Answer 1

They would not have offered to help you if they could not do so.  It is up to them to look out for there well being if they are volunteering assistance.

Answer 2

how considerate of you! you did nothing wrong. assuming you refused politely.

Answer 3

I'm 49 and I was raised the old fashioned way.  I still hold doors for ladies, and offer my help when they are struggling with heavy or awkward items.

It's sad that this woman had to even think about whether or not to accept well-meaning help.  The women's movement of the 1970's led us to this abominable state where simple courtesies are questioned.

Worst of all, I can't tell you how many times my simple kindnesses like opening a door didn't even merit a simple "thank you."  Sad.

Answer 4

It's entirely up to you.  The gesture is really sweet.  It's nice to see that there are gentlemen left in the world.

I think women aren't used to this kind of thing anymore, or they feel there's an ulterior motive sometimes.

Refusing wasn't the wrong thing to do, especially if you were polite about it.

I was once dragging my two year old, a stroller, and a car seat through an airport (husband stayed home), and everyone was just annoyed at me for not moving fast enough. Along comes a man and his son,  and he offered me some help.  At first I was a bit shy about accepting, but I did.  He told his son that it was a good thing to offer help when he thought it was appropriate.  This simple gesture really made a huge difference in my day, and here I am 4 years later, writing about it.

Answer 5

Can't touch this........

Answer 6

That's not wrong at all.

Answer 7

You should have accepted.. It's great to find there are still gentlemen around who help with luggage.. They used to do that every time when my mom was young. She went to the station and 3 young guys came running asking if she needed help.. Nowadays.. you won't find many guys will offer to help.. They believe ''Women want equality'' let them carry 3 suitcases alone'' maybe yours wasn't heavy.. but some peop[le really struggle with suitcases.. and nobody helps.. You should always accept help from someone who is willing to do that.. otherwise the last kind guys will think all women never want any help at all that they can struggle even 3 bags.. You can get a cart for the bags ok. but if there is none near or if there is no lift. and you need to go down and up stairs.. it's hard with luggage.. xx

Answer 8

No it wasn't wrong, unfortunately there is always the risk that someone could get hurt helping you and then sue you. You shouldn't let this stop you from accepting help though.

Answer 9

Yes you should accept.

They won't sue if they offered first - you didn't make them do it.

If they are part of a hotel - they will expect a tip, but otherwise it's chivalry - unfortunatly dying out.

Answer 10

I would accept and just make sure the luggage wasn't out of my sight while he had it. And if he looked like he needed money, I would then give him a few dollars for the help.