A married man is contacted by ex lover, carries on online/phone affair in secret for 1 yr is it adultery?

Question

Is it breaking the marriage vows? "Forsaking ALL others, keeping yourself ONLY unto him/her as long as you both shall live".

Answer 1

Yes, that is adultery.

Answer 2

an emotional affair, is still an affair, which is cheating. The married man knows he is cheating or he would not have kept it secret.

Answer 3

It is adultery but most states have no-fault divorce - Divorce his ***

Answer 4

Yes, I think since he has the intention to carry on a relationship with a person other than his wife and seems to be making an effort to grow in the relationship with his ex there could be some trouble ahead.  

Answer 5

No, of course not!

Answer 6

its adultery

Answer 7

Emotional cheating is still cheating. If he was saying things to her that aren't appropriate for someone in a relationship to say to someone not their partner, then he was in the wrong.

Answer 8

Absolutely not. Not without physical contact and actual s*x.

Answer 9

I think its adultry because who knows if it was really just over the phone and online, and even if it was just online or over the phone how long before it would have moved into something physical.

Not only that you shouldn't be sharing intimate information with and ex lover, thats something a husband and wife should share with each other not someone thats outside of the relationship

Answer 10

in my opinion... things do not have to be physical for it to be an affair or cheating

Answer 11

I don't know about adultery, but it is definitely wrong and deceitful.

Answer 12

It's not adultery as the dictionary would define it (if there is no physical contact), but it is a betrayal of trust - which is just as bad.  

Answer 13

Are any states acknowledging Adultery any more a means for divorce?

or is this question for another country?

We have taken the old school out of todays education , no more pledge of alledgence or prayer , No structure or morals of any kind, My education did not turn me into a religous freak and by no means will i eever step on others beliefs. I try to respect everyone.  So how can we save the morals of our vowels in marriage ?  

Answer 14

As long as you continue to keep in touch with her, YES, you are a dirty cheat, just like one that is physically seeing another woman..Bill Clinton did not consider oral s*x really having s*x.  GET REAL  You are cheating on your wife buddy.

Answer 15

yah, and if someone did that to u DEFINITELY seek divorce

Answer 16

it is a form of cheating---> emotional cheating

i woudl consider it adultery.

adultery doesn't necessarily mean its happening in the physical form

Answer 17

Yes he's cheating and doing more than what you think he is.  

Answer 18

It is adultery.  "Even as he has thought it, he has done it."  

Answer 19

yes i think this is a form of cheating

Answer 20

Well...according to most men...probably not...according to most women, probably.

Men tend to focus on the physical portion of the vows, women on the emotional.