A military question...?

Question

I know this has probably been posted a hundred times, but I'd like to know if anyone has any sure fire ways to get out of the military while in boot camp? My girlfriend left about 2 weeks ago, when she left she had went to visit her dad who's in jail. He had said to her a while back if she doesn't go full-time, he'd never talk to her again. Yeah I know he's a piece of work, well the day before she left she went to visit him and he told her when he gets out he's moving to Peru. So he won't be around anyway. Before she left for meps she whispered in my ear "get me out of this". I don't know what to do, and I'd really like some help, typically I'd say stick it out, but her mom lost her job a week before she left and their going through hard times, and I don't know what I can do for them. I just know her and well.... her family would be better if she was home, especially considering she doesn't have the mentality to be down there... Someone have any ideas?

Answer 1

Not a problem, tell her to tell the doctors at boot camp that she can not emotionally or mentally adjust to military life.  She will be evaluated and probably discharged with a notation in her record that she folds under stress and would be denied any federal benefits.  If the girl is 18 or older and made this decision to join and signed contracts, there are consequences to refusal to serve.  Changing your mind after a contract is in place is one of those pesky things adults need to understand will cause you problems

Answer 2

well...sorry but she is in...she signed the dotted line...she has to do the training...maybe this will make her a better person as far as more stable.  She will learn discipline...you should leave it alone and let her do her training.  If you get in the middle of it and talk to her about trying to get her out you are going to make it worse for her and for you.  She might come to resent YOU for doing it.  

Answer 3

Not really sure why you are involved in this situation.

Mom doesn't have a job and now daughter who doesn't have a job wants to stay home with mom.

She made it through MEPS and the ASVAB so you may be selling her short. It appears that she does have the mentality to be down there.

Generally speaking the military will be more than happy to get rid of her at the earliest opportunity. Before large amounts of money have been spent on her for training or additional schooling. This is one of the purposes of boot camp. It weeds out the malingerers and malcontents. All she has to do is say that it does not feel right for her.

She will then be discharged and will never again be allowed to enlist in ANY military service and she will carry that 'type' of discharge for life.

Again, this must be her decision, not yours, Dad's, or Mom's.

Actually she could be escaping from a very bad situation.

Answer 4

She is out of luck now. You should always consider the consequences of signing any contract. If she gets out, she will probably pay the price for the rest of her life.  

Answer 5

From the story you told it sounds like the best thing she could have done was join the military and make something of herself.  She's guaranteed a roof, food, and monthly income.  If I were you, I would encourage her to stay where she's at and make a new family with the branch of service she joined.  Be an encouragement for her...don't find ways for her to get out.

Answer 6

d**n dude your in a tough situation...if she wasn't  gone to basic training already there a chance still...she has to find a way to get discharged in basic somehow and she will return back home...

by the way in from PERU yayyyyy

Answer 7

She did sign a contract. It is very difficult to get out of it. The easiest sure fire way would be for her to just give up. It will take forever, as the Drill Sergeants have no respect for quitters, and she will probably get held over long after her class graduates, as happened to a couple of the quitters in my class back in 2005.

There will always be problems at home, at least there always has been for me. I suggest she stick it out. However, if she really has given up and has no desire to be in the military your best way is for her to get a Chapter 8. She would have to get pregnant in training. For instance, if she got pregnant while home on leave or during Basic graduation while you are visiting her. However, I do not recommend it since having a child is not something to take lightly, but it is the easiest way.

Answer 8

I don't see how she would pass on the responsibility to you as if you have magic strings to pull.  She should know enough that she has already signed that contract.  If she wants out now, she'll better have that $150,000 to repay the military-the amount it took to make here a qualified servicemember!  She is going to "stick it out" until the end of her contract.  Unless you are just making this whole story up.  Why whisper in your ear?  Makes no sense!