A problem with alcohol at my wedding

Question

i really don't want alcohol at my wedding because on my dads side of the family they can't control themselves when they drink and they get sick and disgusting and embarrassing now for my fiance's family the out of town guests expect there to be alcohol at the wedding. is it ok to just say no way and keep it that way. neither me or my fiance drink.

Answer 1

You could do a lot to control this by having an afternoon wedding.  Get married at 2pm, have cake and punch reception.  Then, each family will want something to do after that, so they will go to separate hotels and have a party.  If they are in different places, you won't have to be embarrassed about what they think of each other.  Find a great place for your honeymoon night, and go there by 8pm.  

Answer 2

i went to a weeding once were each guest who was 21 or over was given two tickets which meant two drinks only. When they would go get their drink there was a person in charge of collecting the ticket and crossing out their names so that their woulnt be any given tickets by others who didnt want to drink. Its a good method to avoid anyone drinking over two drinks and maintaning a peaceful and enjoyable weeding =]

Answer 3

if you don't want alcohol at your wedding, it's your right to say no.

don't be worried about what other people think.

--I'm getting married in October and my hubby-to-be and I both said no alcohol. Our families aren't right in the first place. =] lol.

Answer 4

my fiance and i also have that problem with his side of the family we are going chem free and splurging on really unique beverages like strawberry lemonade with frozen strawberries instead of ice, and things like that, don't worry about not having alcohol there its your day and if people need alcohol to have fun that's their problem not yours.

Answer 5

it is your wedding do it your way.

Answer 6

Perhaps if you try a cash bar? They may be less likely to drink too much if they have to pay for it. :)

Answer 7

It's your wedding , you should do it anyway you want . If neither you or your fiance drink... then why shouldn't you have a non alcoholic wedding ?  

    

Answer 8

I understand your problem a little bit (it happened recently at a wedding I attended).  A good solution is to limit the amount of alcohol a person can have by cutting off the drink limit.  It really worked well.  Or you could just cut alcohol completely from the wedding (it definitely saves a lot of money!).

Answer 9

Say no drinks and it's cheaper! :-)

Answer 10

nope if there is going to be a family thing then there sertainly will be kids there

just say that due to the kids you wont have alcohol at the resception, nor allow it in, you can serve a glass of wine or two till the food but thats it

i dont get this US tradition of drinking in family setting with kids all over the place, its common knowledge you dont mix alcohol and kids

Answer 11

It's your wedding . . and it's your decision whether to serve alcohol or not.  

One of the best ways to SAVE MONEY at a wedding reception is to NOT serve alcoholic beverages because wedding guests love FREE liquor and they wil drink and drink and drink at YOUR expense.

If you serve  a large selection of sodas . . iced tea . . lemonade . . and fruit punch everyone will get home safely.  

Answered by:  A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

Answer 12

do whatever you'd like. nobody should expect anything from a wedding. if it comes down to it have a CASH BAR, I did. you could also do a champange toast only.

honestly every single wedding I've ever been to was cash bar and nobody ever complained. I had a cash bar and it worked out fine.

Answer 13

Hosts may serve alcohol or not as they wish. It is rude for guests to "rate" an ongoing party as if they were reviewing a restaurant. Your host invites you and you either accept or decline; you don't go and then complain that the wedding doesn't suit you. I suggest that you have a short reception ending with a fancy dessert and champagne toast. If people like to drink as much as you say, then they will be having alcohol whether you are serving it to them or they are getting it from a hidden flask. Make your party short enough to be OVER before the "party animals" get too loose. People that want to party longer can always meet afterwards at someone's home, a night club, etc.  

Answer 14

Heck yeah. Weddings don't REQUIRE alcohol! I've been to a alcohol-free wedding and people danced and still had a great time. It didn't last quite as late, but people still danced and talked and had a great time! Besides...the only reason some weddings last as late as they do is because of all of the drunks lingering.

Answer 15

it's your wedding and if you and your fiance dont want it then that's the answer

however I would tell the guests that it is a 'dry' wedding so there is no surprises ,

you may lose some guests but that may be no bad thing

Answer 16

this is a choice you and your fiancee should decide together. whatever you decide is ultimately your choice and not your guests. its your wedding not theirs.

if you decide no alcohol expect some of them to be upset and be prepared to deal with it. expect some to bring their own bottles or beer. expect some to leave early. but again its not their wedding.

Answer 17

My fiances family is Latin and they drink HARD CORE, my family doesn't drink AT ALL. I did NOT want alchohal at the wedding because my fiance has issues with drinking that we are working through.

We agreed on Sangria (fruit wine) and champagne. Once the bottles runs out, THATS IT.